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writes:Is it necessarily a bad thing if my boyfriend is a lot more into me than I am him? He liked me for longer than I liked him before we got together and we've been dating for about a month and a half. He seems a lot more confident in our relationship than I am, and I'm wondering if this is a healthy thing. I really like him, but like I said, it's very clear he's the one who's in deep. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Ifyoudontmind  +, writes (26 August 2009):
After that first month of puppy dog love infatuation it seems to lose its glimmer. Keep that in mind, its not time to name the kids and get a morgage, just have fun and keep it light.
If it progresses fantastic, if not , cest la vie.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 August 2009):
Its usually the girl whos one step ahead and in it with a full heart yet in this case its the opposite, i dont think theres anything wrong with that just dont ket things travel too quickly too soon. Make sure your feelings towards him are clear and if at any point you start to think right i dont feel the same any more the best thing you could do is be straight with him.
The fact that he liked you the most before hand shows hes genuine at wanting to make this work however sometimes one puts so much pressure and emotion in it can become sufforcating and you begin to want to break free, dont let it come to that by talking to him regulaly . If hes being to forward simply say look i really like you but slow it down a peg! Be honest with him and remain in control of yourself without falling in order to protect his feelings.
Its ok that hes fallen deeper quicker than you the time when you start to feel uncomfortable etc is when you should be worrying.
Feelings to alter throughout the relationship maybe hell cool it down maybe hes just happy to have got what he wanted for so long? As lone as he knows how you feel and you both work wel lfrom there it shouldnt be a problem.
Best of luck
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