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writes:this isnt really a problem.. but you know. i just wanted to ask if.. erm. is it okay for cousins to like each other? i mean not only liking as a cousin but actually something deeper than that. ive been thinking about this situation for nights since we went out that day, with my other cousins. though i didnt tell him i actually kinda liked him, but i know he knows. i even posted on instagram with my caption "with you, its different." and he says hahah he knows its him. im like err.. okay.. so we actually talked on twitter openly. cause i tweeted "i feel like going universal studios again this month ._." and he asked why never invite him. im like, okay. ill confirm the date and than tell you after that. he asked me, alone or with other cousins. im like, anything. soya, thats all. but my feelings now are really confused.question: can cousins be together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2013): There will be different responses to this question. I will take your age more into consideration.It is totally normal to crush on a cousin. They seem more distant in kinship than a brother or sister. It isn't unusual for crushes to develop at your young age. In fact, it's normal.It isn't good for people of blood-relation to become sexually involved. In fact, there is the risk of pregnancy producing off-spring with birth defects. This depends on how closely-related the cousins are. The more distance, less the likelihood of any birth-defects.You also may upset your parents and his parents; if they feel you're closer than relatives should be. They will make more fuss than you may be comfortable with. So it's okay to have a secret crush and not take it any farther than that.What you feel in your heart and mind is okay. You just shouldn't act out your feelings; because you'll get really attached, and other family members will get stirred up and try to keep you apart. He is a boy, and he will want to put sex into it. That is a very bad idea.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 June 2013):
 The answer will totally vary according to location and culture of the answerer.
In some places ( several Middle East countries ) marriage between first cousins are actually encouraged and recommended and make for nearly 50% of all marriages.
In USA marriage between first cousins is illegal or restricted in 31 states - and frowned upon also where it's legal.
In my country, it's perfectly legal ( although if you are a Catholic and want to get married with a Catholic religious ceremony, you need to apply for a special permission by your Bishop ) but you'd be mercilessly ridiculed because it would be considered a show of backwardness and ignorance and uncoolness.
If you are a Muslim it would be pretty much OK, if you are a Hindu it would be pretty much not OK.
So : it all depends.
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