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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year. I just graduated from grad school a couple of months ago and we were put in a situation where I was going to move back home until I had enough to get my own place and then he said that I could move in with him. After being away from him on clinicals and the such, it made sense at the time that we didn't want to be apart anymore. Thus, I moved in.We both agree now that it was too soon to make such a big decision and neither of us were ready to take that step. We've been living together for 4 months and it's like the honeymoon is over. The only resolution that we can come to so far is a negative one which would be for me to move out. Neither of us truly want that. He thinks we can continue our relationship with different residence but I think it will be over if I walk away now. Can anyone suggest any other resolutions to a couple who moved in together too soon?
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (7 October 2006):
 well you could do what i did but its not gauranteed to work well last october i moved in with my boyfreind just after 4months of being together same thing happened honey moon period was gone so in an arguement for the 10th time i packed my bags and left i moved back in with my mom,we made up and now i have my honey moon period back again. we see each other 3 times a week and it makes things so much better as when we see each other now all we want to do is cuddel and spend time with each other as we missed each other so much the days we didnt see each other. maybe you should do that to save your ralationship but it will be better for you as you will both have your own place so you could stop at each others place like i do with my boyfreind i stop at his weekends. or if you dont want to follow through with that then maybe sorting out days where you go out with your freinds and he does the samesay weekend or a few days a week you both go out socialiseing with freinds at different pubs/or where ever. and just spending the whole day away from each other untill night time when you both have to sleep next to each other.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (4 October 2006):
 If you two don't want to live in separate houses, I suggest that you both have time to yourself within the one house. A couple of nights a week, just stay away from each other. Leave him watching TV and you go and read a book or something somewhere else. Maybe you could both go out separately with other people so when you get home, you're happy to see each other again.
My ultimate advice would be for you to move out for a while to see if this is really what you both want. Rushing into things can end relationships and you need to know it's really what you want before you do it, not just because it makes sense at the time.
Good luck and I hope you work things out. Have some time apart and get some space, get that excitement back.
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