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*ugostephen
writes:its been 3 days now and i have had no contact with my Ex at all, its been really hard not picking the phone up and trying to talk to her. Iam wondering what she is doing all the time, i totaly love this girl and it would be like wining the lottery to have her back. It frightens me of what future has in store for me with her as we will have the connection the rest of our lives with the baby, when will i realise that it is over, what will it take, I always feel as long as we are together for the baby then something could happen again with us. Sorry to peole who have to hear me moan on and go on and on about this, but its such a hard time in my life, i very much doubt she is upset but i have lost my soulmate forever can anyone replace that emptyness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Why exactly did you two split up? You are going through a sort of grieving period, which you must go through to get stronger and be able to survive in the future, sorry to say this but you are not alone, but you have to try and manage it better. Yes, i think maybe a trip to the doctors would be beneficial, as you sound very depressed to me. Go along and explain all that has happened. You will meet someone else in the future and i know right now you are low, but your bounce will come back and it will be bigger and better the next time with someone who truly loves and want you 100%.
take care
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Hugostephen, please call your GP and ask for some counseling support. You sound unable to cope and I have read your previous posts on this.
You need to deal with these emotions that are causing you such pain, so that you can be prepared to support your new baby when it arrives in this world.
Focus on finding help for yourself, then you can deal with what happens later.
I know it's hard to believe but people do survive breakups and sorrow like this.
I think you need to experience these feelings you're going through, there's no shortcut, alas, but knowing that you'll get through to a new reality and there will be a new 'normal' might be enough to focus on for right now.
http://www.enotalone.com/article/2445.html
All the best, please make sure you are eating right, get a bit of exercise, make plans with friends and family to keep you occupied...
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reader, hugostephen +, writes (2 June 2008):
hugostephen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust to clariffy the question my fault sorry, we have been split for 2 months and its 3 days since i last spoke to her, the longest its been since splitting
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): I’m sorry you’re so sad and this is such a hard time in your life. Don’t apologise for moaning…That’s what we’re here for.
It’s only been three days. You’re in a lot of pain now, just give yourself time. Time will heal. I know that might not be what you want to hear, but there’s no super quick fix to a broken heart.
Why do you think you have lost her forever? Never say “Never”, but give it time.
Try to hold it off a few more days and then call her PURELY to ask about you baby.
Good Luck… I hope you feel better soon.
Emivia. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): im sorry that you feel this way but if you loved her you will let her go. You have your reasons why you both split up but the most important thing is your baby. you cant make her get back with you and you can long for her for ever but the truth is time will allow you to get over her. Yes its hard but in time you will soon notice you will get your life back on track
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