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writes:Ladies, (or gents) can anyone help me with a few thoughts on how much time and space I should give this girl? I have been spending some time lately with a girl I like a lot. We have a lot in common and want a lot of the same things in life (home in the country, children etc) and we are in the right age group to pair up. She seems quite keen on me and to date, she has always followed up on what she has said she will do, like meet for coffee or telephone when she said she would. She recently lost her much-loved grandmother however, and has travelled away to attend the funeral. She is due back in town and said she would let me know when she was back.She is a lovely girl and worth chasing but I think it is prudent to leave her alone for a little while. Any thoughts on how I should give her the time and space she might need would be appreciated. How long should I wait? Tough question I know, but that is why I need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank-you for your replies. The advice kind of confirms what I feel in my heart; give her some space and let her come to me when she wants to spend time with me again. Just to clarify, ChangePlease, what I mean by waiting for her is how long before I get in touch and try to be with her again. I am in no hurry to get her into bed, I believe the best way to build the relationship is relaxing time together without the pressure of sex.
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reader, Ikey  +, writes (7 October 2008):
That is a tough question. You could always leave a message with no strings attached like tell her your sorry about her grandma and that your sending her good vibes or praying for her. Then let her call you.
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reader, ChangePlease  +, writes (7 October 2008):
how long to wait for what? Sex? Marriage... what?If you want her around for good, you don't wanna be having sex with her before you marry her.
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reader, Faybelline  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 I'd say there is not definite answer; how much space or time a person needs is a totally individual thing and she may need a lot of time or jus a little.I'd say that, when she gets back, let her know you are there for her if she wants anyone to talk to but don't push it and let her come to you when she's ready.All you can really do is be there for her and wait; she'll be ready when she's ready. If she's really worth chasing and waiting for it shouldn't really matter how long it takes.
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