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writes:Can a woman love you now and hate you later?I heard this in a song once “ nothing changes faster than the speed of love” After you don't respond to her wanting you, the signals that she likes you. It’s the after affect response. So she starts acting like she does not want you - its over. Is this normal to be that inflexible? We are both mature professional educated adults here. She sought me out, and initiated the intimacy on the second date. Nor was she dating anyone else. I would not commit to her in a month. Now later on she now decides that she hates me? Would this be a specific incident? Can a woman love you now and hate you later? If so Why? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): So now that is addressed, why would a man such as yourself,find this type of woman attractive? What need did she fill for you?
Because a healthy, adjusted male from a good loving, nurturing, supportive childhood home who had two loving parents as role models...would avoid such a woman as it wouldn't feel natural,ya know.
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reader, lerx +, writes (15 March 2007):
lerx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI like what you both say.
No she was not a very social or emotionally healthy gal. She was often negative, selfish, and acted a little wierd on occasion. It was as if she blamed me for her faults instead of taking a real good look at herself. Like all she had to do was show up and then just expect things from me. What did she do to make me like her? Not very much unless you include silence or criticzing me. Sorry but just laying on her back is not enough.
Yes agree: I don't think she came from a very loving family ... her childhood must have been bad. (?) I think or I'll guess that she dealt with some forms of abuse all her life besides in her childhood. She was abusive too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): It's neither normal or healthy. What recently changed in your relationship dynamic? Did you lose weight? Stop drinking? Watch less TV? Spend more time with her? Focus more attention on her and the relationship?
Something changed and with it, her 'love' (it isn't love as it is she filled a need for you and you for her and it changed...the need is gone).
So yes, on the surface...it would appear she stopped loving you but a healthy, well adjusted female that came from a very loving, supportive, nurturing childhood home where all her needs were met healthily...No.
I probably have you wanting to ask more questions now.
But that is the short of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): The relationship possibly meant more to her than it did to you. She was probably crazy about you.It seems as though she was looking for commitment, but you weren't prepared to give her that and she is feeling rejected and used. So, when she was with you she was feeling all those loving feelings that most women feel when they make love to a guy. You have rejected her and her feelings, so that is why she is acting so hateful around you.
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