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writes:Help! I'm 27 years old living under my parents roof. I was raised strictly.. parents always say 'Let a man show you respect.' They would just flip if I were to call them and say.. 'I'm sleeping over so and so's house.' The guys that I've dated are cool with it at first, but later the topic comes up more frequently. It ends up being a BIG issue for them. They've said it's more than just sleeping together.. it's waking up next to her. Can a relationship survive if the girl can't spend the night? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): it's your life not your parents. sleepover if you want because they can't stop you. I mean you are 27 that's seriously ridiculous!!! And if you are worried just say oh I'm at my friend samanthas or I'm going away. It's your life okay not theirs, tell them to take a hike.
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Well honey, I strongly suggest, saving up to move out. You are an adult, you don't need their permission. However, its very respectful of you to not spend the night at a guys house, since you are living with your parents. (though i dont think you should let that stop you) If you are going to spend the night at a man's house just do it. Tell them you are with your friends. You dont have ot tell them its a man, they need to realize you are a big girl and can take care of yourself. The most mature thing to do would be to move out so they wont hassle you. My parents used to tell me "If you are going to have sex like an adult then you need to act like one and take care of yourself." I was only 17 then, so I doubt they expected me to have a place of my own. But now I'm 19 and my bf and I rent my mothers other house from her. Its a struggle, but we manage to do just fine on our own, and I would NEVER want to move back in with my parents.( Even though my parents are very chill, nice, and relaxed) Once you have the freedom of being on your own, you never want to go back. Good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 December 2008):
It does put a bit of a dampener on things.
You can never have a bottle of wine together and relax because someone has to drive you home or call a taxi.
What's stopping you moving out?
Good Luck!! xx
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