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reader, q1605 +, writes (28 March 2008):
 The only experience I speak from is playing in bands and watching the drama unfold before me. On the dance floor. Our wives never came out until the week end. By that time if we got a pretty good vibe we were going to be asked back and we were paid in checks that would cash and if management didn't send us a million drinks uninvited and take the price off the back end then I had my priorities in order and pulling some guy off my wife was not high amongst them. Are you not taking lessons because she asked you or because you don't want to. I have noticed one thing about all the bastards out there that swagger around and notch up there bed posts like they do. And that is that each notch represents some woman. Married, in a relationship, or free as a bird. I have never met a woman who owned up to surfing a wave of beer suds into some guys rack. And no one on this sight would ever in a million years compromise their marriage in this way. Unless their husband committed the unpardonable sin of viewing porn and then it will be job one. And I am sure nobody on this sight even knows of anyone that has or would do anything but dance and never get too drunk and sleep with a guy they didn't mean to. So I wonder who these women are that drop down from the ceiling and bang players and then are gone as quickly as they appeared. Cause man I am telling you these guys use dancing to get women in the rack. And it works. Consistently week after week. Is your wife going to act out like this? I would never cast aspersions idly but you didn't write in just to say hello from the sidelines of dance. . There is more to this story then the dancing but the dancing is probably the first concrete thing you can put into words. There are a lot of people who were well into the adult world in the seventies. I was there and I don't remember any wild out of control things happening at disco's. Every one was gentlemanly and refined. I never saw one man snort coke off of a womans breast without getting her express permission. And never was it acceptable to have more bottles of champagne opened than you could carry at one time. I don't mean to be crude but let this guy walk into this with his eyes open. Don't let him get blindsided to protect womens sensibilities
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): If it can, you have a pretty crap relationship to begin with. I might add that it's especially hypocritical for any man to have a problem with their girlfriend/wife dancing with other men when they themselves look at porn - which features other women (whom the viewer jacks off to, no less)....
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (28 March 2008):
 If the relationship is weak to start with, then maybe. If it is strong and trusting, then most likely not. Dancing is great physical exercise and can make people feel self confident and aware of their bodies in way that may pay dividends for the strong relationship.
I honestly don't watch much dancing on the tube, but ballroom dancing seems to be two people who rarely look at each other, touching only at the hands and backs, keeping strict distance between them. The tango, now that is another matter...
If it makes your partner feel good about her/himself, and your relationship is strong, why not let it happen?
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reader, q1605 +, writes (28 March 2008):
being from the states it probably about line dancing to country music or something equally as conducive to making me or folks like me look like uncoordinated twerps while some cowboy twirls and shucks and jives and meets her in the middle of the week when they give free lessons to be her partner so she can learn and dance well with him on the week end. And It has nothing to do with getting her into bed. He's probably married as well so they fuck in his pick up out in the parking lot. So if this activity might affect your relationship then reel her in now or kick her to the curb. I'd say the latter. Trying to get some chick to settle down and get back to acting like she is married is next to impossible. Not after she has experienced the lofty heights of line dancing to Brooks and Dunn, or Garth brooks, with Bubba the love sponge. No mortal man can compete with these living breathing personifications of greek gods that walk amongst us
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Aah I see. She's wanting dancing lessons I presume, but the type that involves another guy, and you're NOT the other guy? You know, (I realise you're from America) here in Britain there are shows like 'Dancing On Ice' and 'Strictly Come Dancing', and I've often wondered how their partners feel about them being so close to other people. Personally, I'd be quite annoyed and jealous if my boyfriend was a dancer (Lol, had to laugh at the sound of that) and was so up close and personal with girls in sexy dresses. So I can see where you're coming from.
But let me say this. It will only effect your relationship if you let it. You can either take it as 1) She's into this type of dancing and would love to learn, or 2) Oh God, she's going to be dancing in short dresses with another guy. I can understand if you're worried! So you've got to talk to her. I'm sure she's only into it for the dancing, because to be honest, I'd love to learn professional dancing, like ballroom or something, or learn to tango or quick step. If I ever did, it's not the guy I'd be doing it for.
You've got to understand, dancing is generally a feminine thing, and a lot of girls I know would love to be able to dance like you see girls on the telly dancing. So if your partner ever did learn, you'd have to trust her. Jealousy can break up a relationship - so you've either got to bare with it and hope that the feeling of jealousy goes away. Or you say you'd rather she didn't, and hope she understood. But like I said before, it's going to effect your relationship, but it's your choice how. Sorry for all the presumptions by the way, I'm just assuming your woman is the partner in question.. Good luck :]
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reader, CharmmyKitty + ♥, writes (28 March 2008):
 I seriously doubt it... but why not take dancing class with that partner?
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