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writes:I've been with my boyfriend almost two years and he's said he doesnt think i've ever had an orgasm. I know that when we're done having sex i get this numb tingling amazing feeling from head to toe and thats what my friends say an orgasm is. But he says he's never felt my vagina pulse and i've tried to tighten up my kegel muscles during sex and he cant feel them. I'm only 18 years old and i dont see why this would be an issue. Is it possbile that i'm too tight or he's too big? Or am I broken?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHahaha maybe! But like I always like to "perform" cuz 1. I dont feel lazy &2. I know it feels good to him so I guess I'm never really relaxed. But I've always thought that maybe it's too much of a "fit" to feel the contractions/pulsing.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 March 2011):
 The "strong" pulsing or "contractions" don't always occur. The mroe relaxed you are the better the chance for a strong one, at least in my experience.So.. lots of foreplay and if he still can't feel a thing.. maybe..... it's his "fault ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! This actually really helps. I do kinda depend on him to know my body cuz, i've never really "done it myself" that just might be my problem.
Thank you very much:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I was a mother of a nearly grown kid before I had a real one. Don't get me wrong- sex was always pretty exciting. But I finally found the key- I have to be completely relaxed and stop putting pressure on myself to "perform". I achieved the first one by myself, so that I could know I'm not dependent on my bf to get me there. After that, it was easier to help him figure out how to get me there when we are together. But knowing my body is my job, not his, and things are sooo much better now that I know my body better. I wish I'd known what I know now- 20 yrs ago! Best of luck figuring this out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have done that, and it did happen. I also know that it's happened while we were having sex too. He just cant feel that like pulsing feeling and I dont know why.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 March 2011):
I don't think you are broken at all. Or too loose/tight.
I think YOU need to figure out exactly how an orgasm feel like, not how your friends describe it. You KNOW if you have had one or not.
My best advice is, have your BF "manipulate" your clitoris til you come or.. do it yourself with him or alone..
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