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Both of us are afraid to say "I love you"...What should we do?

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Question - (5 February 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 22 March 2009)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

If your in love with a boy and that boy is in love with you and he is afraid to tell you and your afraid to what should we do?

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A female reader, puput_016 Indonesia +, writes (22 March 2009):

puput_016 agony auntI think u should tell him, because no one will know if u don't try. Don't be afraid of being rejected. The important thing is that u've said that. It means that u really love him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008):

Love is not about the mind it's about the Heart and Soul and if it's real, not infatuation, then we have little say in the matter, we don't choose, LOVE... LOVE chooses us....

The feeling is Deep, unremitting and never ending, Eternal.

If Some people are afraid to say "I Love You" its usually because of Past fears or rejection, possibly because Hurt.

Love is Patient, Love is Kind, not demanding or conditional and is totally Blind to any faults..

It's all consuming, overwhelming, and the Greatest Gift there is to Man.....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007):

Give it time, some people are afraid of being rejected or of just do not feel worthy of being loved. When it's right, you'll know.

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A female reader, Patient1 United States +, writes (5 February 2007):

Patient1 agony auntJust say it already. If you both love eachother and you both know that you love eachother, then why is it so hard to say it? The only reason you should be afraid to say it is if you're not sure that you do love eachother. Some people don't say it because they fear rejection, but if you are both in love with eachother then that shouldn't be a factor. If you're comfortable telling him you love him then just say it. Maybe he's just waithing for you to open that door. Give it a try, what's the worst that can happen?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

Love is the most wonderful, comfortable feeling in the world and if you're not even comfortable with each other enough to say "I love you", then you're not in love.

Infatuation is a wild, fun ride of emotions that swoops in and takes over your senses. There is worry, being uneasy, puzzlement and/or fear. Many not knowing the feeling of love assume this hormonal ride is love but it is not.

Rollercoaster romance, worldwind romance, being swept off your feet, and even love at first sight are all examples of infatuation.

Many love stories begin with infatuation then with time and patience love and trust grows.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007):

I agree with CD totally. If you're afraid of such simple matters as saying you love him and vice versa, then most likely you're not in love in the first place. It's a natural phenomena that happens on top of better judgment sometimes. If you can't say it, most likely, you're not in that frame of mind. You probably really like him, and vice versa, but being love? You might want to give that a few 'seasons'.

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (5 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntIf you're afraid to say it you're not really feeling it


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