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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years, but I'm just getting tired of the relationship and want to be single. I care for her more like a close friend than a girlfriend, and I want to be honest with her about our relationship. I felt this way before Christmas and we broke up, but over the holidays (only a week later) got back together, and it was better for awhile but quickly returned to the pre-breakup state.I'm worried about what her reactions will be in being dumped again and so soon after. Also, I'm worried that if I break up with her I'll start to miss her and want her back again, and I dont want to get into this game of breakup-makeup. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): Yes, you do need to make a decision and THEN STICK WITH IT!
Tellulah has hit the nail on the head.
Let her know as honestly but kindly as possible that you now want to be on your own because after two and a half years its not working for either of you. Let her know you appreciate the good times you had, and that you do care about her, but that for her sake, and for yours, you find it necessary to write "finish" to your relationship.
It will hurt, yes, but easier for her to accept in the long run, and she will be free to meet a man who really does want to commit to her.
Once done, don't contact her again! Broken-up, as I am inclined to stress, is exactly that: ended, the relationship no longer exists, and no friends with benefits stuff either! Make a clean break if you are absolutely sure that's what you want, and then keep to it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): hi mate i had a relationship like this once and i let her go and everyday i wish i had`nt,because i never met anybody like her she is uniqe and beautiful inside and out and now she`s with somebody else,dont make the mistake i did please be truly honest with yourself as the path you take is going to be with you forever.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (5 February 2007):
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First make your mind up (what do you want). Have you spoken to her about the way you feel. You can't mess around with her.If you dont want to be with her, then tell her. She will move on and find someone else. There may be tears but better she finds out now, so she can get her life to-gether.
Secondly though, if you do this to her again, then you run the risk of not getting her back. Well it will be your own fault. Thats the way life is im affraid, its a hard world out there. And you cant expect the girl to wait while you muck her about, can you.
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