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writes:My boyfriend confessed to me that he took his ex home to northridge yesterday when i ask him when was this he change the subject on me than he told me it was last wk. i think he is cheating with her please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2013): He partially confessed to ease his conscience. He isn't ready for a full confession; because he fears the consequences. If nothing happened he would have reassured you in every way.The problem with people who maintain regular or frequent one on one contact with exes; is that they keep the fear of an emotional relapse and reconciliation with the former hanging over the current relationship. Are they having their cake and eating it too?What are you to do? Demand the full story or convict him on circumstantial evidence. Do you breakup? That choice is between the two of you. However; there should be a cooling off period. Unanswered questions regarding cheating, is paramount to a lie by omission of the truth.You have to tell him if you feel your trust has been compromised. You deserve to know the truth. If wondering consumes you and you can't seem to get around it. You will only find closure by leaving him or forgiving him. That all depends on the over-all quality and stability of your relationship. Are there other troubles or issues; or just her? Can you forgive him?That choice is yours.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (18 April 2013):
This is a sad situation to be in but difficult.Try and find out if he is cheating for sure because .Before you comfront with this Or you could ask him straight out.However if you find out that he is cheating you will then have to decide -1 are you going to forgive him and build a trust again .Or are you going to finish with him So on that level make sure you find out the truth if his cheating or not .Best Luck Nora B.
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