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writes:In need of some advice..before I make a fool of myself.I left home over a month ago. My Boyfriend was upset but accepted it since it was for school. We've been together fr 10yrs and through a lot. He was upset and hurt I left but I wanted to finish school and get my degree. We talked everyday and texted. He always said he missed me and loved me and so did I. He said he was working everyday to keep busy to make time fly by faster for him. I truly belived he was I could always get a hold of him.We one day out of no where he broke up with me. and told me he doesn't love me anymore and was completley done with me. That he and I would never be again. I cried and cried for weeks it hurt so much to hear say that to me. We have everything together down to a house and pets. He has the pets.He ignored me and said I needed to stay away from him it was best for both. I told him your over reacting ill be home and done in December and he still said no.He found out I got real sick and was in the hospital he texted to see if I was okay and that was it.Now I'm going home maybe for good for medical reasons. I want to see him and our pets. But I'm worried ill make a fool of myself. Do you think it would be a bad idea to go see them? Should I call first?And do you think he really ment what he said that he's done? 11yrs of nothing but wonderful memories for both of us. please help thanks
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Oh hun.... I'm sorry for you.Its nowhere your fault and this is so not how things should have gone. But you know what, adversity brings out the best (or worst) in a person. As long as you were with this guy, it was fine...you had a life together, and sort of went with the flow. 11 yrs is a long time...but this man couldn't even wait for a few months, and that too for you to finish up with your studies??? Thats pathetic, and its probably a good thing you're not with such an inconsiderate jerk. He didn't even bother calling you when you were in hospital!! We would even call upon people we hate, if they were sick and hospitalized...because that's humanity!! Thats just too much. Maybe those 11 yrs were wonderful for you, but it didn't mean anything to him, because its not possible to detach oneself just like that...unless the person has the emotional quotient of a chair!
Please dont go back pleading for things to work out. You have much more dignity than that. If he wasn't serious about what he said, he would have at least called upon you when you were sick, and would have tried to make up for the mess. You must see the pets, but dont even bother seeing him. Call him and ask him what would be the best arrangement possible. Accept that you now know the worth of its guy, and its never too late.In fact, its a good thing you know what kind of an insensitive person he is, before things got worse. Take charge of your life, take care of your health and move on!! You can do SO much better without him!
Good Luck and lots of love!!
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