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*tew18
writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now and now I'm in college. We're staying together because we really do love each other. I find myself staying home and waiting for a call from her when she promised she would. For example, there was a football game today and she said she would call me so i stayed home. Everyone went... I'm afraid im starting to become a little to obsessed with her. Sometimes I think i'm the only one making compromises and I just want her to keep me updated... I know that i need to stop worrying so much when she doesn't call me but I ALWAYS text her first. I need to stop. Someone help plz...
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reader, Stew18 +, writes (14 September 2009):
Stew18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the responses! I've told her my worries and stuff and she agreed that I was completely right. She said she would try to change and i know it's not going to happen overnight but i can already see some improvements. Thanks so much for the advice to go out and enjoy myself as well. It's made it quite a bit easier to not think about her all the time (even if i do) and makes me worry less. GRACIAS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): She will lose respect for you if you keep doing this and then if ever you break up, she will have no problems moving on in her life because she is enjoying her life.Meet people, spend time with your friends, find interesting things to do. Hang out with other girls, by all means remain faithful to her and make time for her, but just enjoy yourself first and foremost. You are far to young and the relationship is far to short to make such big sacrifices for each other.I was in a 6 year relationship which was long distance for almost 2. Take this from someone who did exactly what you are doing and while I've learnt greatly from my mistake, it was a very difficult period after the break up. I neglected everyone for her, she didn't do the same for me.Guess who got hurt the hardest when the relationship ended.Hint: Not her.Don't sacrifice your life for her. Live your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): If you and your girlfriend weren't in a LDR (you could see her everyday) and she asked you if you wanted to hang out with her, would you have ditch the football to go and see her? I think you would have. It's totally normal to want to spend time with your girlfriend.
LDR are hard especially if you are used to spending all of your time with soemone. My b/f went away for 3 months and I hated it. The only thing that got me through was knowing he was coming back soon and we could have a normal relationship.
I'm guessing that if you are college you might be in LDR for a few years. Personally I don't think I could do that. I would maybe consider taking it in turns to call each other at a specific time each day (naybe before college)that way you can plan your life around the LDR a little easier.
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