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writes:hello,I am a 24 yrs old single guy, currently staying with my uncle and aunt. My aunt seems to be a dominating woman and she is trying to teach me things i don't really agree with. Basically i feel that she deeply wants me to please her, or care for her, but that is not possible as she is quite nasty and forceful. Moreover, she doesn't even care a damn about me or about her own daughter for that matter. She is just a piece of shit in the family, to be blatant and harsh and my uncle knows it, my cousin (her daughter) knows it as well. For the moment, i feel pressurized to accept things that are not right but what my aunt thinks are right. I cannot move to another place for other reasons and i have to put up with this nasty, forceful and intruding behavior by my aunt. Any advice would be helpful.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Hi there,
I don't think you'll like my answer very much and for that, I'm sorry. Pretty much, I'm thinking that for as long as you're living under her roof, you're just going to have to bear with her. To tell her off would be rude, as she is opening her house to you.
As for her trying to force beliefs (or whatever, I'm not quite clear on WHAT she is forcing) on you, you should sit her down and say, "I'm pretty happy where I am now in life, but I love hearing about your views. I'd love to talk to you and with you, but sometimes you can come off a little domineering. Maybe sometime we can go out to lunch and talk."
Fight fire with sugar... okay, I don't know the saying. But as long as you're under her roof, take what she says with a grain of salt, suck up the anger and smile. Hopefully you'll be out of her house soon enough!
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 She might be going through menopause. That's what i think. My aunt used to be a pretty nice lady until she reaches her late 40s. She gets mad easily and starts yelling at those innocent too. It's part of the cycle.
And even if she isn't going through menopause, it may just be her nature. In this situation, it's best not to argue. Just maybe leave the house for a walk or nicely tell her that you're not interested in the things she's telling you to do.
You may wanna try gather your cousin and uncle for a nice chat(not confrontation) with her regarding her attitude; but make sure she's in good mood.
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