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female
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30-35,
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writes:I’m having a rather annoying problem with my boyfriend. We had been best friends before getting together, and during the time where we became good friends he began to ignore his male friends. For the past few months, 2 or 3, he has been spending a lot of time with his male friends, which I understand because I want to give him his space (just like I need mine) and gain those friendships back. But now it has gotten increasingly frustrating. I have rather strict parents and I am not allowed to go out as often as my friends, or him. He seems to be continually making plans with his friends every weekend, making no time for me and no consideration of my feelings either. When I did try to make plans with him, he blew me off twice and made another date which was more convenient for him and left me alone most nights I had wanted to spend with him. Most of the time when I'm out with him, I also feel like he would rather be somewhere else. I also feel like he makes more effort with his friends than with me because he thinks that they deserve it more. I’m not sure what to do because I have spoken to him about it before, and it made me come off as rather clingy, although I don’t think I’m being that at all. I think it’s good to have balance between friends and your partner, but not at the cost of ignoring your relationship. Am I wrong?
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 You are right to feel this way, sorry to break the news but he must not feel the same about you anymore. He sounds as if he has gone off you. Try talking to him again and explain your situation in the same way as you have wrote this question, if nothing changes withing 2 weeks then end your relationship, you can do much better than a guy who doesn't want to spend time with you and blows you off! X
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