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*hristibeth
writes:I am a 30 year old woman and I have been in a relationship for 8 years now. My boyfriend and I use to have a wonderful and exciting sex life. We currently just got back together after being seperated for almost a year and my sex drive has vanished and his has increased to the maxium. I am very attracted to him and he s also attracted to me, though there is another small problem I have, I've gained almost 15 lbs. since returning home. He seems to be very supportive of my weight gain but it has affected me a lot in the bedroom. I am just not sexually motivated at all. My question is,"what is wrong with me?" I am wondering if I am just used to the fact of going without sex or is my body going through something I cant diagnose? Is my weight gain the actual problem and has become a self esteem issue thats causing me to not want to be intimate?
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hi,
I think both has affected you if you have gone without sex for a year and gained weight too both will have an impact on your self esteem but it seems a shame to let that affect your happiness 15lbs is nothing you can lose that in a 5/6 wks with a careful eating plan once you lose that maybe you will become a bit more relaxed about your body we women give ourselves a hard time about body/weight issues the way i see it if your man loves you what is 15lbs?
If the weight has gathered in the middle have you thought about buying some basques?
Just a thought they hide a multitude of sins and i am sure your guy will love it and when you see how excited he is with you i think you will forget all about the weight another good thing about basques they can be kept on during it!!!
Try it see what have you to lose!!
Gialolabridga
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