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writes:god i dunno , im with my boyfriend nearly a year and it was possibly the best thing i ever done . it really was like he's my bestfriend , he was there through everything and equally in turn , i love his friends, social life and family . i love him . but lately i am having a hard time showing it sometimes i just want space he's told me he wants a break until i prove to him im still as into this relationship as i was at the start , i just dunno how to prove it ? i love him , i dont want to be single i dont want a different man i just want this to work please just give me advice on how to prove i still want this ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): If he needs to show are explain to her if she into this relationship then he does need a break permanently. Its not hard to figure out the guy not feeling what he think he sending to her.
Do she really needs at ask him to show her how to be into him? Come on here look: "he was there through everything". Here's what he gets in return: "but lately i am having a hard time showing it sometimes i just want space". Everyone needs time to themselves even within a relationship, but you need to decide do you want to be with him or go it alone. Just saying I love you means nothing you need to show. Here: I love you did that make you feel loved. That's what he's getting I bet. You need to allocate time if you want someone else in your life.
He said prove it. What he means is show him that you want to be with him without regrets that your making a mistake. "i am having a hard time showing it sometimes" some people are more emotional then others. I think ur guy is one of them. If you can't express how you feel towards him than think about it you may not be into the guy after all.
You were giving the advice of screwing more. That not what he asking of you. Have you every written the dude a love letter and mail it to him? Have he ever came to you and you made him feel like he was most import person in your life for that moment? Have you did anything late that would benefit his emotions over yours? This is more in line of what he asking for...not your vagina. All females has that.
He doesn't think you're into him therefore he's willing to walk. Change that!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 I agree, you need to ask him what proof he needs you to provide, without knowing the goal how can you achieve it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): Prove you want him by not letting him get away with this. In all my years, I have never heard a "break" that was not just an excuse to get away from the other person.
Before you agree to the break, you need to understand EXACTLY what he wants from you. What is this proof that he seeks? Does he want more sex, more freedom, more time with his friends?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Ask him how you can show it. This is likely a problem of miscommunication. You think you show him you love him, but he is looking for other types of signs. Which signs he needs only he knows, and it is vital that you understand and respect what he needs to feel apprechiated and valued. Sometimes it can be something as little as giving him a goodmoring kiss first thing when you wake up. For me personally it matters a whole lot to recieve some attention when I enter the room, or when my boyfriend enters a room I am in. Him walking by ignoring me, or not taing notice to me, is hurtful in the long run. So it can be little things. But you need to ask your boyfriend what he needs for you to do.
It could be you are taking him for granted. What did you use to do in the beginning of your relationship? And what is it you find so hard you can't do it now? You should remember that a romance will die if you don't pay it attention, and any relationship needs constant work or else it will fade away. So you can never be lazy and just let the relationship drift by the wind, or else you will get dumped.
For starters, if you can't ask your boyfriend, and if you truly have no idea what to do, I suggest you write him e-mails everyday, or better yet; personal letters. Tell him your thoughts, how you feel about him, your views of life, anything. Second you need to have a talk with him. If you are on a break there is no way you can prove anything to him, as you wont have the opportunity, so you need to get this break off and get together so you can actually show him. And once back together, give him a kiss and a smile every morning, ask him to go out and do things with you that you know he enjoys and that you can also enjoy.
Dress up for him. Have conversations with him. Make him a part of your life.
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