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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi,So I have been dating my boyfriend since the start of January, and before that we had been best friends for about a year. When we decided to finally get together,we mutually agreed that it felt right and we were really happy.Our relationship has always been 'banterous,' teasing each other and being competitive. My friends noticed it from the start and said, "We don't think he should speak to you like that." but I laughed it off saying that we have 'banter.'However, recently I feel that it has all gotten too much. He criticises everything I do and tells me I am stupid or "a mug" all the time. It's making me feel really sad and it's knocking my self esteem. I've told him that it makes me feel bad and I don't like it when he tells me I'm stupid but he continues to do it.He says, "I'm sorry," kisses me and says "is that better?" I just want to scream at him, that NO, that does not make it ok but instead I just walk away. You'd think he'd take that as a hint...If I criticise him back in any shape or form he gets thoroughly insulted, sulks and waits for an apology. If I don't - he says, "I'll just leave shall I?" It makes me so mad! He knows me so well, why can't he see that I just want to be the little, pretty girlfriend whom he makes a fuss over and adores, not the subject of his insults?I know why he does it. His family do it all the time, they constantly knock each other down, just to get one up on the other, so I know that's just what he's used to, and it's unlikely that he will change...I feel like I should break up with him, because I dread seeing him but he was my best friend for so long and I love him so much, I know he is a lovely guy... I just... What do you think I should do? I've said that I'll give him one more chance, but if he upsets me one more time, I'm going to end it.Any advice on how I can explain this to him? I love him so much, but I'm afraid that he will hurt me so much that we cannot be friends like we used to be.... Thank you x
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