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writes:I am in a gay relationship and love the guy I am dating. The problem is he tells me that he loves me and cares for me and wants to spend the rest of his life with he, then he runs back to his cheating ,thefting husband. I love him with all my heart and soul and it hurts me sometimes to feel like I am nothing. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 So it's not love, it's material and security.
Stop drinking, start thinking!!!
About, living life on your own terms.
You'll have to maybe go out into the wilderness on your own.
Face poverty, self destruction and lions and tigers and bears
Oh my...
but you'll have done it on your own. Not tied down to a signature on a piece of paper that can change anytime it wants. Like the monks say "live dangerously"
by that I don't mean irresponsibly.
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reader, nicholasw122161 +, writes (26 April 2011):
nicholasw122161 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell also the problem is that the house is left to me not the gay husband and I am left on his insurance to get 100% of his policy. He tell me he want to be with me and spent the rest of his life with me. I ever know all his passwords on all important sites and know the combination to the safe. He buys he gifts. So u see that is the problem how do I leave him when eveything is left to me
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (26 April 2011):
You should find someone else, who's single, and more caring. And fast! Time is running out.. tick tock tick tock..^.^
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Guys married, your the bit on the side.. What don't you understand. The other guy gets used, and the guy at home get the cuddles, sex, money and commitment.
Find someone single, it hurts to wait around on a man who is busy screwing someone else and having a whole pile of fun without you.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (25 April 2011):
Heed what dirtball is telling you! Why hurt yourself any longer over a guy who is not available? Time to move on.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Leave him. He's saying what he knows you want to hear, but the person he goes back to is the one who he's actually with. You're being used. Sorry.
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reader, cupidus +, writes (25 April 2011):
You're not nothing to yourself in your mind I hope!
But in his mind, NOT YOURS, you're his stand-by.
If that's your choice, that's your choice, living the rest of your life with this guy is saying, I do not live in the moment, I live for possibility, risk, chances, maybes, hopes..
Why bother, what you might desire is the challenge more than settling down. Maybe you need to think about that.
Maybe you don't.
But you say cheating, thieving husband, which means you have hate. You want that in your body and mind? What's that going to do to you? This is already out of control because you might be out of control, thus enter into RS's with unavailable partners. Yep, unavailable!!!!!
Maybe you prefer to mourn than be happy. A lot of people are like that, it's cool, many famous writers are only happy when it rains. But if you seek happiness, you should grasp that moment in the NOW... not tomorrow or in a million years into eternity.. NOW... this minute. Pick an emotion and don't doubt it.. live it, feel it, breath it.
remember DOUBT IS DEATH....
Don't have a bad life, just have a bad hair day or something. Getting control of your wants and desires will eventually get you where you want to be.
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