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writes:Hi guys,My boyfriend will be going on a vacation with 10 guy friends for a week. He told me that they will be clubbing for one night in the midst of their vacation.I don't like the idea of him clubbing but he told me that he is sort of obligated to go as everyone will be there and this will be their graduation trip. So I told him that during the period he went on holiday, I will go and club with my girlfriends too.Then he said he rather not going to clubs if I want to go on my own with my girls. However, it is not very nice if I restrict him to go with his friends as he will probably be alone that night. So I am really in a dillema.I don't know if he goes there to see girls or have fun with boy and check out new girls.Should I let him go?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 You can't restrict your boyfriend from doing activities. Your his girlfriend, not his wife. Even then you only have limited say so.
If his guy friends go out to a club one night, I don't see the big deal. He's not going to get drunk pick up chicks to take back to the hotel, or gyrate on girls..he's going because he doesn't want to be sitting in the hotel room watching television while everyone else goes out.
You can be fair by saying you will go out 1 night only with your girl friends, since he's only going out one night with his friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I think you may be over-reacting. If you don't trust him to go clubbing without cheating, there's something wrong with the relationship in the first place. Maybe just speak to him about boundaries -is dancing ok? is grinding ok? is talking ok?
And don't go out clubbing with your girlfriends because you want to get back at him. Do it because you want to go out and have genuine fun.
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