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writes:If after a long-term relationship ends the dumper becomes involved with one woman after another at which point do these relationships not be considered rebounds? Also, if the dumper becomes heavily involved with these other woman immediately afterward with "I love yous", moving them in and talking marriage, etc. before really getting to know each of these other woman what are the chances any of these relationships will last?In my opinion, when the dumper becomes immediately attached again and again with different woman, one after the other, it is because they basically fear being alone. I am curious what your opinions are on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, supermum  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 My opinion? It is not a rebound relationship when you are completely over your previous partner. Until then, it could be considered a rebound relationship.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 "at which point do these relationships not be considered rebounds?"
They stop being rebounds when they aren't rebounds any longer... A "rebound" is not a clinical term you know. It's a subjective term. If YOU think your partner is just a rebound, or that you feel your partner thinks of you only as a rebound.. then you can call it a rebound. But if you and your partner think you have a relationship, and are NOT rebounds, they you aren't rebounds. Simple as that.
There's no law that says every person you end up with after a serious relationship is doomed to be a "rebound".
If you are dating several women at the same time and claiming to love them all, and talk marriage with them all, then you are a player, and these are not relationships. Several women at the same time makes you a player.. and a cheater.
However if you are only with ONE woman, and you love her and want to move in with her, then you be the judge on whether or not it is serious. Some people move in with each other without being serious about the relationship.
"In my opinion, when the dumper becomes immediately attached again and again with different woman, one after the other, it is because they basically fear being alone"
Maybe. But it really isn't any point in wondering, because what someone else does is their business and doesn't concern anyone else. If they have their own reasons to do what they do then how does it matter what you think about what they do?
My opinion is that if the dumper becomes immediately attached again and again after each relationship and doesn't give themselves time to be alone, then there can be several reasons. Perhaps they are just lonely. Or perhaps they fall in love easily and have a big heart. Or perhaps they don't know themselves well enough and end up with the wrong people over and over. Or perhaps they are gullible and naive and think the next one is THE ONE, and never learn from their mistakes. Or perhaps they were just unklucky to end up with a serious of people who are wrong for them, without any fault of their own.
There can be so many explanations.
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