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writes:Ive been friends with this guy for a while now, but we only became close friends recently. We went out on a few dates and at first he said he wanted to wait before making the commitment of going into a relationship, I said I understood because he was scared of geting hurt so wanted to take things slowly. But he also knew that i really wanted to be in a relationship and that I was sure of how i felt about him. Then two days later he changes his mind and say he wants to be in a relationship with me. I dont get why suddenly he changed his mind. In a way im thinking maybe he's realised that i wont go far with him unless i'm in a secure relationship. Do you think im just overeacting and assuming the worst? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I would take things very steady with him. He has changed his mind a bit too quickly for my like. Take things at your pace, not his. If he tries to quicken things up then slow them down again until you have got to know him a lot better and can understand his ways. Dont be bullied into anything either just because HE wants it that way. You call the shots.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 just becareful with him don't do anything unless you really want to. if you said to him you won't do anything with him unless you are in a secure relationship, than thats like giving him a chance to push how far you will go. just don't always believe it when a man says he loves you or if you love me prove it(this means prove to me you love me have sex with me). just be cautions you can normally catch them out. xx
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (25 October 2007):
No I think you are right...he is trying to suss you out...how far you will go...it is all about power and whether he thinks he will accept you...why doesn't he want to get hurt. This sounds like some violins playing here. Be really cautious, I don't think his intentions for you are valid.
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