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writes:I have been dating my bf for 5 years. When we first started dating, I wanted to have sex non stop but he did not feel the same. Now he wants to have sex more often and I don't really feel the same way. I think subconsciously I have taken his not wanting to have sex with me in the beginning is now affecting me to not want to have sex with him now. I guess for so long he didn't want it, I was offended and now my body reacts with me not wanting it now.
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
talk to him!
maybe he wants you more because he didn't know as well in the beginning.
Maybe he fell in love and did the whore/madonna thing. A lot of guys are the biggest sluts in the world and your first few months are magic. then they fall in love and they feel they're violating you be having sex. The more you want your slut, the more unconfortable they get.
lack of sex hurts anyone's feeling and we all, men and women, blame ourselves, look for physical flaws, and self doubt lowers the sex drive.
He has to woo you back. If he gets bored again like others have suggested, that's abusive. He may not mean to be abusive, but toying with someone's feelings is abusive. If you wear him out, that another story. women have a natural, monthy hormone/biological cause for wanting sex. Also, you biological cause 5 years ago might have, without his knowledge, scared him. the more you know someone the more intimate the more men start think we all want babies. He might be more comfortable with that idea now.
Now that you've got a ton of if, go ask him.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 i think he wants it more because you don't. men always like a challenge and now you have gone off wanting it all the time he wants to entice you and encourage you back to your old way and no doubt if he succeeded then he'd tire of it again.
its confusing but it could make your relationship last longer not having the same sex drive because, if you both had it all the time, you'd soon get bored and if neither of you wanted it, the relationship wouldn't last because you'd feel uncomfortable, so think of it more as a challenge and enjoy it.
good luck
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 September 2007):
 You could be right. I'm not going to discount what you'd said because that can happen the way you said it. I am going to give you a second angle to look at.
Girls peak before boys, they reach their "i can't get enough" stage before the boys do. I could be you've peaked, then began coming down, as he begins to go up.
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reader, broken babe +, writes (23 September 2007):
 people are all diffrant about how they look at sex personally if you got used to not wanting it get used to wanting it again you say he didnt want it before? im not sure but dont feel offended cause if he didnt want you he wouldnt want you now
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