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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Are we "friends with Benefits"? or is there something more? First of all, we met like a year ago and really developed a strong friendship and apparently as I found out a few months ago, we also share a strong physical attraction. After a few nervous encounters, we landed up having sex after he revealed he was beginning to "like" me. He also accidentally said "I love you" at the end of a phone conversation and I pretended not to hear him. I explained that he can't have feeling for me because I am recently separated and no one should know we are even together because my (not quite EX) would freak out and my children do not need to be affected by this. So I told him we could have sex as long as he understood that feelings could not get in the way. Since we have had a sex since then, I thought it was all ok, but he still texts me almost daily and calls a few times a week, but we never talk about "us" just other daily things. He has not been seeking other relationships either. I guess I don't know where this whole thing stands and I don't want to go back on what I said about not developing feelings, unfortunately I think I already have feelings of some sort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is the biggest problem women in general have about no-strings sex. They simply can't do it. They always seem to get emotionally attached. Whether it's to do with chromosomes or genes I don't know, but it always happens. It's a proven fact that women can't have no-strings sex for very long before that ball of string appears.
I'd say you're friends with benefits and something more is looming rather closer than on the the horizon.
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