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writes: I need help!I have been seeing the same guy for about 6 months now. We fool around, hang out and have a great time together. But he keeps changing his mind about our relationship. One minute we're just friends, the next minute he is telling me how beautiful I am and wants to be more. How do I make him make up his mind about us?? Reply to this Question
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reader, StarNews +, writes (3 February 2006):
 You tell him what you want and need, its that simple. You cant force him to make up his mind about you. He is the taker and you are the giver, and you are allowing this to go on by believing that your needs do not matter.
Realize that you have the ability to get what you want, all you have to do is open your mouth and speak up. If he is meant to be in your life, and respects how you feel, he will stick around. If not, then you didnt need him to begin with.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (3 February 2006):
 I think you have to be prepared to confront this guy. 6 months is a long time and it is simply not fair on you for him to carry on this way without making some kind of descision. Obviously you don't want to lose what you have
so try to avoid making the discussion heated but be firm.
I assume that you know whether you want more or not and that is why you are asking this question. When you do talk to him about this maybe you could take the lead by 'showing your hand' and declareing your feelings. Hopefully this will encourage him to do the same. Hope that helps.
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