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writes:Reading some of the questions on here and contemplating my own relationship experiences (or inexperience), I keep thinking to myself what's the point. The average man is seeking egotistical sexual desires with other women while the average woman is seeking some egotistical emotional/sexual desire with other men. In the high school teen years, the majority of people seem to be luckless when it comes to relationships. A few alpha males and females have more sex than the unlucky ones could ever imagine. Eventually everyone seems to get sucked into this world of insecurity and relationships. In the end, aren't we all just following what billions of years of evolution and our DNA has created us to do?Rather than wasting our time and lives crying miserably about somebody who never really liked us, or preparing ourselves for hours for that next date, why not just forget about it all? Fuck relationships, peer pressure, and the urge to be a "normal" person. Aren't we all better off alone?Things in our world are designed to make us think we are better off together. Every love story always gives the idea that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Another idea is "you can't have the good without the bad". I say that's bullshit. There are some people who live overall happy and successful lives, and there are others who live in misery and end up killing themselves.Basically all I'm wondering is, are we better off alone? I have been alone for some time now, and the longer it goes on, the happier I am of never having to put up with girls or other people in general. I am much more productive studying and never depressed. Sometimes I feel it would be nice to have a girlfriend (my body speaking), but I would never trade my solitary life now for how it was in school.I think maybe I'm just sick of people in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): There is a lot of truth in what you say. If you can continue to thing with the left side of your brain...that's good. Some of us are right brain thinkers (romance, creativity, etc) And others are equally balanced thinkers. If you are happier being alone...than that's the way it should be. But one day...you may meet the right woman and want to spend the next 60 years with her! Then you will understand!
And it is not bullshit, that you have to take the good with the bad! Life itself has good and bad, so why would relationship be any different? We can't go through life only expecting good things to happen...of course bad things will happen as well. It is how we deal with what life throws at us!
I am a people-person. I love being around people, males and females, I love to laugh, and have fun! But I am also there for my friends when they are in need of an understanding ear, and a shoulder to cry on. To be totally alone...that is sad! I wouldn't want to spend my life that way.
Maybe some people could do it, but not me.
If you are happy the way things are for you, then continue your life the way you are living it. But I suspect since you brought the subject up...maybe you are just a tiny bit lonely? I believe man and woman were created to live, love, and be happy with one another!
Good Luck in Your Solitude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Perhaps YOU are better off alone but as for the rest of us.. both experience and Maslow's Heiarchy of needs tells us that we are most certainly NOT better off alone.
The suicides that occur are all too often made by lonesome, unloved people. (that is, people who feel that they are unloved, regaurdless of whether or not they really are).
They are made by people who have been left by their significant other and they feel there is nothing left to live for.
They are made by soldiers oversees (in larger numberes than combat related deaths) when they have found that their wife has left them because she is too lonely. In this particular situation, both people have removed themselves from it due to having no one there.
Being alone in for the particularily strong and independent and perhaps even numb. Maybe this is you.
But if nobody ever had anyone to love or anyone to go home to or hug or kiss or make love to or raise a family with, the the enire world would not exsist as we know it. We are to find our mate, reproduce and live. Aside from what your religion suggests, that is why we are here.
It is quite a journey to find the one person that will make us feel right and happy. But we have our whole lives to make that journey. That is what dating is. We are not always ready to continue our search due to a painfull past or hurtful people or a lack of hope, but one day, we will feel ok again and be ready to try again.
And besides.. if you are old and incapable of wiping your bum.. who will take care of you? Not your wife, as you have none.. not your children, as there are none.. not your parents, as they are most likely dead.
NO. we are not better off alone my friend. Take your time finding "the one," but do find her one day.
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reader, Rabb88 +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Hallelujah Brother!Well said... I'm much happier when all I have is myself to worry about. ;)The single life is sweet.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Many people do very well alone and prefer it that way. If this is your choice I think that is great. You are probably stronger than many people are. Still it's nice to have someone to come home to at night; to lean on when you've had bad news, someone you can count on who will love you unconditionally throughout your life. It's nice to think as we grow older there will be someone we will have to share our life with. It isn't always a fairytale but many people do find harmony with each other and live wonderfully rich lives as a couple. It just takes time to find that one special person and along the way, you get stuck with alot of toads. If you enjoy being alone, then I wouldn't rush to change that and if you do meet someone you'll know when you're ready for a change. Good luck.
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