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Are there any physical signs to determine if someone has had anal sex before?

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Question - (19 September 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 September 2009)
A male Pakistan age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Im in a relationship with a girl and i want to try anal sex with her, she said that she has never had anal sex with anyone before in her life, her previous boyfriend is a friend of mine and he told me that he had anal sex with her.. but she denies it, are there any physical signs to determine if anyone has had anal sex?? someone told me that after anal sex the rectal area develops a scar around it. is this true??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009):

Leave her past sex life to her. You need to greatful that she even wants to have sex. I dated a girl that had had anal with the guy she dated before me, and the guy she dated after me. What I found out was that I was bigger than them... and she liked anal, but was too scared to try it with me. I wish she had... years later I dated a girl that was really into it and she learned to take 100% of me inside... it was great.

Consider that your size may have her freaked out... maybe your freind has a smaller package...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009):

Good heavens no, there shouldn't be scarring as a result.

I read once years ago that a doctor could tell because, while doing a rectal exam, people accustomed to anal sex had far less resistance to penetration. So perhaps one way to tell is how much trouble you have getting in. That's all relative, of course -- depending upon how nervous she is and how experienced you are.

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A male reader, softtouchmale2003 United States +, writes (20 September 2009):

softtouchmale2003 agony auntI think your friend is either pulling your leg or your girlfriend doesn't want to admit she had anal sex. And that may mean she doesn't want it.

On the other hand, if you must know, probably no way to tell.

You could tell her that her ex told you about it. But then she'd resent both of you.

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