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writes:Me and my girlfriend never had any sexual relationship before(or anything on the side). We were both 100% pure virgins.Now, my question is -- is it safe for me to perform oral sex on her?Are there any diseases I could get or even give her, while we're both virgins?She performed oral sex on me without a condom, before (it was her first time to do it). And I would like to do oral on her too, but I want to know what risks are involved.We never had real sex with each other, but we're happy enough with mutual masturbation right now. We both love it and because of all the risks involved we don't feel ready for the real sex yet. We're mostly afraid of HPV, and shockingly we read recently it's possible to get it from oral sex too. She'll get an HPV test soon, apparently she didn't finish the vaccine.. She only had one injection of the three against HPV.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 August 2014):
 I didn't know there was such a thing as a HPV test. Never had it, and I've been having regular check ups for STD's ever since I became sexually active. However, there might be such a test, I know the vaccine is just recent, so it could be possible I suppose.
Anyway, no, you probably will not have anything to transmit to one another. If you DID you would have become aware of it long time ago by your doctor. Because the only way you could have gotten something is if it was passed on from your parents, most probably. Such as HIV or Hepatitis B, which can be transmitted through giving birth. HIV and Hepatitis B can also be transmitted through needles or blood, without there having been any sexual contact. Or herpes, if someone in your family has it and gave you a kiss, like close family members often do. But you'd have known that too, because if so you'd be having an outbreak by now.
Or, if you were sexually abused as a child/inappropriately touched as a child, you could have gotten something that way. But, you'd be aware of that as well.
When I first started seeing my ex he was a virgin. Before we had sex I went to get tested, and he came with me. We talked to the doctor together about him needing to get tested, and she said no. There was no need for him to get tested as he was a virgin.
So I will say, you're most likely safe and good to go. If you're not sure, then you can go and get tested. The tests don't take long or require much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2014): I am all for sensible advice when it comes to one's health because I work in healthcare and witness many diseases that are transferable. What I am trying to say is, be safe but try not to let fear overtake your enjoyment of something that is soposed to be a pleasure. If I dwelled about what I could catch at work, dealing with all maners of human fluids and barrier nursing the contagious ones, I would never be able to touch a patient or have that human contact because of fear, I have to keep it in perspective. It makes me sad to read how fearful two young people are of something that is so natural yet sounds so clinical, how clean they are inside and out. At some point at least try and enjoy the passion it's more human. And remember medical research points in the direction that sex is ood for you and can have it's up-side in health matters, so don't be too fearful of something that is healthy.The whole of life is a RISK, every step we take is a blind risk, as much as we humans like to try and 'control' everything, we can't and when we do, we block natural life flow and that is what great SEX is, a natural flow. Lets put the clean sheets on first, lets get showered first, lets wait and do it at seven as always, lets do this and that first, where is the passion and natural flow in this clinical senario? Remember the 'clean and pure' talk is bullshit on this planet, real life is to be lIVED not FEARED. To roll in at the end of it, broadside with scuffed knees saying WOW! what a ride!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): I'm the question asker.
Thanks so much for both your replies!! :D
@ WiseOwlE: thanks for everything! Yeah I think I should go ask my doctor more about this! I feel it's kind of awkward talking about this to the doctor though, since I've known him for so long. And I'm not like those reckless guys. Whatever happens I'll always be there for her. But it seems as if everything is really fine so I should be able to do it :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): I also what to add that you use condoms to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Take equal responsibility, don't place it on her to take birth-control. You share the responsibility if she gets pregnant, intentionally or unintentionally. Don't have unprotected-sex with other people, lie, and risk your girlfriend's health like so many reckless and selfish men do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): It lifts my heart to hear from a person your age concerned about his safety and the health and safety of the person he loves. If your girlfriend is receiving tests for HPV she can ask the health-professional, or technician administering the test, all the questions a young woman needs to know.
If you know for certain that your girlfriend is not sexually active, the risk of catching any sexually transmitted diseases are extremely low if not zero.
Other than the usual opportunistic infections like measles, chicken pox, or a cold or flu virus are all you're likely to catch or transmit to another person; if you've been exposed.
We can pick up fungus or bacteria in normal everyday life, but sexually transmitted diseases are only spread if you come in contact with the semen, bodily fluids, or blood from an individual infected with a sexually transmitted virus, bacteria, or microorganism.
I always encourage sexually-active people to be tested together for HIV and STD's, and share their results; because you will know their status and diagnosis first-hand. People may lie to you if they really want to be with you. They may be infected, and not know themselves.
Getting tested is also a way of letting your partner know that you want them to be safe, and that you are being careful. I commend you and your girlfriend for taking those steps to keep each other safe.
If you it gives you peace of mind to wait until she has had all three injections, do so. I want you to go to and ask health-professionals for all the details; so you get the true science and nature of sexually transmitted diseases.
Don't even rely on what you read on the internet. Doctors, nurses, and various medical technicians are trained professionals with the credentials to give you the latest in medical research and information. My doctor cringes when patients tell him what they've read on the internet. That's why I'm not referring you to any website. I encourage you to get the best information available to you and your girlfriend. Go to your doctor and ask.
Use their services for anything regarding your health and protection from health risks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): When you say you are 100% virgins does that mean that neither of you has had ANY kind of sexual contact with another person before including mutual masturbation and oral stimulation? I'm sure you realise that transmission of these diseases is not just from genital to genital contact.If neither of you has had any sexual contact with anybody else ever then you won't catch an STD from each other - but you can catch other diseases.The herpes simplex virus (the cause of the common coldsore) which affects the mouth and lips can also be transmitted to the genital regions (and vice versa) If you regularly suffer from coldsores then you should abstain from any kissing and oral sex until it's completely healed. Many people who regularly get coldsores know when they're going to get a break-out in advance so you should avoid kissing then too.Thrush (also known as candida or a "yeast infection") is common in young women and occurs spontaneously but it can be transmitted through sexual contact and it can affect the mouth as well as the vagina. It's easily treated and causes nothing but discomfort but you need to remember for both of you to treat this infection, even if one of you has no symptoms.I'm sure there are some better websites than this one to answer your question.
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