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writes:So I have been in a long distance relationship(which is how we met) for three years and I'm starting to have doubts. I feel in a lot of ways like I'm missing out on the relationship that i want. He is a lot different then i but we also have a lot in common. Bat as i look at everything i see more cons than pros. I love him more than anything and he is my best friend and when we are together i forget most of my worry's. but then when i am alone i start to doubt. Sometimes i wonder if the only reason i stay with him is that I'm afraid ill lose him as a friend and i don't want to hurt him. It just i had a plan for my life and they are not turning out how i want them to be. and when i think of moving in with him a lot of those plans get even farther away. Whenever i try to talk to him about it he think that i am trying to break up with him when all i try to do is express how I'm feeling. I'm only 20 and feel like i am to young for anything long term as i have only been with one other person and we did not go out only hooked up. i do have fear of commitment and think that could also be a factor. I am so confused and hopelessly lost.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Not letting him know how you truly feel now for fear of hurting him and losing his friendship is selfish and bound to hurt him more much later,you cant imagine how many times id wished a chick had let me know how she felt only to find out later what was happening,but im still friends with thm despite the hurt and bad treatment received. So be a decent gal,let him knw..move on n decide what he wants4 hmself frm there,gd luck!
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reader, bittersweetmemory  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 I think you need some time for yourself to see what you exactly want. You need to make sure you love him and want a future together with him if you're staying with him. To stay with him just because you are afraid of losing him as a friend it shows that maybe you only want him as a friend? You need to decide weather it's your fear of commitment or the fact that you don't want the same things and therefore don't see a future for the two of you that is holding you back. Try to talk with him about your worries and doubts. Tell him you don't want to break up just have some things piled up that you need to discuss with no one else but him.Just make sure you take your time and decide what you really want.Good luck:)
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