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writes:I am in college and have always struggled with my weight somewhat but I've never been overweight to the point of being unhealthy. I have always been a very active person and I love to play sports. I am 19, 5'5.5" and I weigh 175 pounds but i have always felt that I could be found somewhat attractive besides my weight. I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years now and I know for a fact that he loves me very much. However, when I ask him this question I get the same answer every time.My question is do guys look at girls like me who are somewhat heavy and think "she is fat" and don't even look at my face to see if i am attractive? I mean, I have always pondered this question but i can't ask my boyfriend because he only says "I think you are beautiful and that's all that matters." I do know that he is the one who matters the most, but I can't help but wonder how other people view me. I have a good guy friend who says that I am attractive, but he has always been my closest friend and I am not sure if his opinion is biased. I would appreciate any thoughts that anyone has...especially guys who would know how other guys think. I guess I am asking a view into the male mind. Thanks very much!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): My experience is that, no matter whether it's visually unattractive or not, sex is much worse with a woman who's at all overweight. It's not about weight per se, but about fitness.
The same for men with muscle - it's attractive to be toned and fit, and sexually it promises much more than an overweight person who's defensive about their weight.
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reader, jerblaine +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Yes most guys like smaller trim girls. He knows you are bigger but he still loves you. He sees past it. Some guys are able to see past it and love you for you. It sounds like you got lucky with this guy.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 I doubt guys would be turned off by a slightly overweight girl like yourself. If you were massively obese, then maybe they would, but you sound a healthy weight to me! I'm quite skinny myself, and I don't get much male attention, Well not at school anyway! I realli dunt think size matters to guys. They should like you for the person you are, not what you look like! xx
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (29 January 2008):
 The only people who think like that aren't even worth the trouble. True attraction comes from how you see that person for who they are, and you can be any size as well as very attractive (Dawn French for example is really attractive I think but she's no supermodel) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): It's basic instinct to lust and immediately be drawn to the healthiest specimen for our reproductive capabilites, thereby increasing the likelihood of keeping the species alive.But with 6 billion odd people out there, this is less lasting then it used to be.So whilst a guy will always be immediately drawn to the hot broad with no underwear... there is only so much of her Britney Spears albums he can listen to before he gets the 'runs' and finds a girl with nice-girl looks and a personality that doesn't vaguely resemble a Cement wall I once saw had been painted over to cover graffiti.So looks win out in straight-up stakes, but personality will determine how long our attention remains.Flynn 24
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