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writes:just looking for a bit of advice, I don't wear makeup on a daily basis, i.e just popping the shops ect, I like to give my skin a rest to avoid spots ect. if meeting friends during the day or popping along to the pub I will wear some makeup, a foundation mascara and blush, just the basics. but I do really like to wear makeup!! so on nights out and special occasions I do put the full set of makeup on, so the basics including a bronzer,eyeshadow, lipstick ect. however, when meeting people I always hear them say to each other, aww don't you look nice (or words to the effect)but when I make an effort I am rarely told this, when I dress up for special occasions my husband has even stopped saying to me that I look nice, or whichever. so because of that, I heavily lack in self confidence while out, think I look a total mess and am always put of going. next week I have a posh charity event to go to, with my husband, mother in law, and 5 friends, now I want to get at least 1 compliment (even if the 1 is just from my husband) telling me I look nice, to give me some confidence for the evening and to make me smile and thing that the few hours I will take getting ready wont have been a complete waste of time, especially as I know the other girls there will get told how nice they look. please, ANY tips at all on how to look pretty, nice, make efforts pay off ect are hugely accepted. thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2014): well, to be honest with you, i believe in natural beauty. i don't like make-up that much, because it takes away the natural beauty of a person. but, i do agree with xTheAlmightyDuckx, however. you need to have confidence to be pretty. you also need to be enigetic. i never get compliments, but i know i'm pretty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2014): OP you can paint the face he sees every day into whatever pattern you like, it'll still be the beautiful face of the woman he loves but you're hardly going to change it much with make up to make him take notice unless you paint a clown face on.
Forgive my crudeness but it's a man you want to take notice. Tits, ass and/or legs. What have you got? Great tits, get a nice bra, nice top, something that will make them pop.
Instead of going for "pretty" go for sexy.
OP my wife is gorgeous no matter what, first thing in the morning, hung over, all dolled up, still gorgeous. If I told her she was every time that thought popped into my head we'd never talk about anything else. I do make a point of complimenting her when she makes an effort for some occasion and just randomly too only because I know how important it is that I say it. Maybe you should let your husband know that while you have faith he feels that way, you kind of need to hear it when you've made the effort.
What makes my wife pop though, what makes me take notice is when she dresses in a way she feels supremely sexy and confident. My vote is go for a change, change is always noticed and good change will get you compliments.
As I said I love my wife but I'm used to her face and the millions of ways she may paint it for going out.
My wife has an amazing ass, probably her best feature even though I love all her body. Let me tell you I've literally been in heaven ever since that yoga pants craze took off. The first time I saw her in a pair I was like "well, well, well what have we got here", not just because I love how they look but I love how she carries herself in them, she has a bit of a strut because they make her feel sexy. When a woman feels sexy she oozes sex appeal no matter what she has on. Maybe that's all you need. You don't have to have your body on show to feel that way either, whatever works for you. Show off your best assets, try a fresh look that makes you feel confident and pretty. You'll get compliments for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): Go to Boots, Benefit, Miss Selfridges, places like this where you can get a make over. Or you can ask for advice.
Or you can go on youtube. Get some confidence (which leads to you smiling naturally).
You've been given this advice already. Not sure what else you're looking for.
You want a compliment - ask for it. Sweety, how do I look?
Don't compete with the other women there. They are not you and you are not them.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 January 2014):
 I wear light day makeup too and I am really bad at doing the fancy dressy up type of makeup. For a big event, I will pay the money to have my hair professionally done and makeup done as well. It takes all this pressure off me to get the hair right and the makeup perfect. All I have to do is put on my dress. It's worth it to me. I feel pampered and totally relaxed because I know I am about as flawless as I can be, makeup and hair-wise.
If you don't have the budget for that indulgence, maybe do your own hair and have the makeup applied for you or vice versa. It just takes so much of the prep time out of it.
If you don't have the budget at all for that, there are loads of videos on youtube as to how to put on make up, and tips for doing your hair. The problem for me with the hair ones is that you have to practice a bit. If you leave it until the day of the event, you will struggle a bit, unless you are a natural at it.
I paid a very small amount for a famous makeup artist's smartphone app, she has videos that cover day, cocktail and superglam events. The key is to have the items in your makeup kit already. I look at those when I need a reminder on how to do all the fiddly bits of eye shadow and mascara and all the warpaint!
I had to point out to my husband that he hadn't complimented me in a while; I think he took it for granted that I knew I looked good. It may be a sincere oversight on his part. Men don't think the way women do. They don't need the reassurance in the same way we do. So remind him how much you appreciate it when he notices you're looking especially nice.
It's good you are planning ahead; start practicing some looks now so that on the day, you already know exactly what is looking best. Ask your girlfriends for input if you are uncertain about how things look.
Eat lightly and healthfully this week, drink lots of water and get lots of sleep. Floss and brush your teeth. Clean your skin and moisturize! Get some good cardio exercise in.
I want you to do one rather weird thing. Sit and smile. Curl your lips up in a smile and now, gently lower your eyelids and just inhale and exhale gently for five breaths. Feel the air come in and then out. Feel your belly and chest expand as you inhale.
Now, as you sit there, with that smile on your face, inhale slowly and completely. Pause for one moment and then exhale slowly and completely again. Do another four breaths in this slow and deliberate manner.
Then just sit, breathing normally, for another minute or so. Set a timer if you have to. If a thought floats in, let it float in and then watch it float out.
At the end of the minute, set an intention for the next few hours. "I will be kind to myself." or whatever you might feel you would like to accomplish.
Smile again and then open your eyes and take that peace and calm and strength that just filled you and go on about your day. Repeat that simple breathing exercise when you start to stress or worry. You can do it at your desk, in the tube, on the bus, in your lounge or in your bedroom. At the gym, even.
Now go be your calmest most peaceful self, you will be just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): Wear a nice long figure hugging dress that has a v neck or a leg split. You want to stand out. Keep it classy though. Looking pretty has a lot to do with confidence but also the outfit
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2014): This will sound corny, but just smile - don't focus on too much make up it can sometimes have the reverse effect - you don't want to look like you've stepped out of Geordie Shore or TOWIE! A smile will go far, people respond to someone who looks happy, healthy and confident.
Don't get all done up and expect compliments - if people chose to give you one then that's lovely but going out thinking you want at least 1 sounds quite silly! Look good for you, if you hang you hopes of confidence on other peoples opinions then you'll feel let down. I once read "don't put the key to your happiness in other peoples hands" and this is true. Relying on a compliment to give you confidence for the evening isn't necessary. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how lovely you look and that confidence will shine through.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (20 January 2014):
 To be honest it sounds like you are doing everything right in order to look your best, but maybe its because you are lacking confidence as all of your compliments have dissapeared. You do know it shows when you are lacking confidence? Its hard to explain but people can see it in your face and sometimes people tend to stay clear or not want to say anything just incase they upset you. So the first tip of course is to let your confidence shine and just try and enjoy yourself and not focus on "I have to get a compliment today" and just focus on having a good time. A big thing which people notice is change, so that is what I suggest you do, maybe change your hair? Or be a bit creative with the makeup? or even do your nails or get a mannicure. Its the small things which people notice and often point out so try something like that. Also sometimes giving compliments gets you one back, so if something catches your eye and you like it, be sure to tell that person and they might notice something they like about you. If you want to go all out, buy a nice new dress and some shoes, dress for your shape of course and be proud of your best features and try and show them off! Now I know you probably know this, but have pride in yourself, its not all about compliments, and even though its nice to be told you look good once in a while, do it for yourself, and no one else, and don't rely on what other people think. Good Luck x
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