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writes: Why am i so a lone. I try to make friends but nothing happens. Or they will be friends with me for a little while then one day they act like they don't no me. I NEED HELP!!!! What do i do Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 I am a bit rubbish at maintaining friendships myself, but I think friendships go through phases where you sometimes have lots, and other times go through a drought. If you try too hard then it looks desperate, and sometimes so-called school friends stay friends as adults but drift apart as they have little in common but their memories. You may feel lonely now, but there are people who know lots of people but still feel 'lonely' inside - they fill their time with other people to distract themselves. Try to focus on quality not quantity. You will find people you like who share educational, leisure and sporting interests - if you don't have hobbies make some, and join clubs. I suspect that you are quite young, and as you get older you will meet people who like you just for you, rather than playing these stupid power games that go on in the teen years where you are only allowed in the gang if you are seen as 'cool'. Remember it is ok to be alone, as it shows you are a strong, independent person who is not clinging to others. As you get older, people will find that attractive.
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reader, the_one_2_talk_2 +, writes (25 May 2006):
 this is quite a tough question, you may probably think that you are doing something wrong, and that may be knocking your self confidence abut making new friends. You can make a new friend by joining a youth club or a activities night of some sort, with something you associate as a hobbie, not only will this let you make new friends, but friends who may share the same interests in you. You just need the self confidence to make new friends. Be courageous and take the first step by going up to someone and saying a casual hello. The conversation will develop, you could ask their name and e.g what sort of music they are into. Keeping the friend, all you have to do is be honest with them, keep any secrets they may tell you and refuse to speak nastily about them behind their backs. Be fun and sponteaneous and prove to them that you are a nice person. I hope wha I have said is of any use to you. Good luck!
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reader, electra +, writes (25 May 2006):
 hi theredon't be so down on yourself your not alone hey i'll be your friend the more you panic and fret over this alone thing the worse it will get, try joining clubs going to evening classes take up a hobby all these things can help you to meet different people the more oput going you become the more people you will meet and as for keeping friends this is all down to you but trust respect honesty all go hand in hand with friend ship so whatever new friends you do make try to ensure you have and offer all of the above and you won't go far wrong i'm sure. i hope i have been able to help take care
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