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*ovingnerd
writes:Well, I'm living with a single mom along with my brother. My parents are not exactly divorced, but aren't in good terms and have been living apart for past four years.Now my mom's not really a deep thinker, and there's nothing of art or music that really interests her. She's always tortured by musing over our life with dad which hasn't been all that pleasant.I guess one of her way of finding an escape out of this is her religious activities, one of which is mindless prayers almost every evening. I say mindless because she doesn't understand a single word of what she chants or prays. She just does it for the sake of it. But her devotion is laudable, especially in an Indian society.I don't really care about that. What bothers me is the other thing,.. her infatuation for TV soaps. Now about 99% of Indian soaps, especially regional ones encircle around families and a tinge of infidelity in a very insipid fashion, with with no real theme and,.. they're just crap. I feel like it's corroding her mentally.Is there anything I can do to bring her to life? My brother's 16 and I'm 22, and although it's weird to be dependent still (it's actually pretty common here), I try to do with my personal and education expenses myself. She's in her late 40s, n I feel my mom's sole purpose is watching us grow. She's barely living for anything else. I really want to change this. She doesn't love reading, no music, no form of art, barely likes cooking,. she cooks only to feed us. I can't think of anything.Any sort of suggestion/comment is appreciated.
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reader, lovingnerd +, writes (15 August 2012):
lovingnerd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot. :)
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (9 August 2012):
 Take her out with you; go shopping (you might be hunting for a blouse or some jeans) insist that she come along, then take her to lunch, take her window shopping use the time to share things with her and try to get her to open up about what her dreams are. Yes she probably still has a few in there somewhere she's just lost sight of them, choked out by other responsibilities. Give her the chance to feel like it's okay to conjure up those dreams or create new ones. Take her to movies. Take her to the ballet, the opera, a rock concert. People grow when they are exposed to new things, and they have to participate in life instead of sitting at home in their same little rut. Good luck.
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