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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and we've been talking about getting married next fall for almost 6 months. We've set a date, started looking at venues etc... We are great together, and we've started looking at houses... He needs to travel for a few months for work, and I am in school--we are both very supportive of each other. We are secure financially, and our families get along well. We have a lot of the same goals, and dreams as far as family, kids etc. The only problem is we've yet to get engaged. He always says "Let's get married" "I want to marry you" etc... We had talked about it happening this summer, and it's not october, and it's not happened yet...Any ideas as to what's up? I've tried talking to him about it...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 October 2008):
Perhaps he's saving up to buy you a huge ring... or waiting till a specific date to propose.
Do what I did and every time you walk past a jewellery shop window point out what you do like and what you don't like in terms of rings.
You don't want him whipping out a complicated ruby and saphinre effort if you want a solitare - and you don't want him spending thousands on a rock if you'd rather have something pretty and designed with colour.
Give him hints that you want it to happen then leave him to it. It is supposed to be a suprise after all!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): He may be waiting for the right time to give you an engagement ring. I would definitely be patient through the holidays. Do you have any birthdays or anniversaries coming up? Also, consider your finances. As you say, you are both responsible, maybe he is just the sort of guy who doesn't see the value in an expensive ring? You say you've talked to him about it, it might help if you expanded on that a bit. Bottom line thing for you to consider is whether having a ring is important to you or not. I'm assuming that's all thats missing from you being "engaged" since you are already planning. You could also just start telling people that you are engaged.
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