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writes:I recently got back with my ex after him breaking up with me giving me no explanation and just before getting back togther we had a heart to heart and he told me that he has never been in a relationship before and this is his first time giving it a go with someone. He told me that he has never really been that interested in girls until he met me and for some reason we just clicked. He said that he has been on his own for so so long that he isn't used to having to worry about someone else and that he isn't really used to having someone else around, therefore our previous realationship was a bit awkward. He hardly ever rang and I really only got to see him like once or twice a week, he could go a full week without talking to me and to be honest it really annoyed me. But this time round I really want it to be different because I do really care for him and told him that I don't want to get hurt. I think he finds it kind of hard to open up to people as I was saying how much I like him and I have so many feelings for him and all he kept saying was that he didn't know what to say, this relationship stuff is all new to him. How can I get him to open up and tell me what he's really thinking without actually just coming out and demanding to know?? I want him to feel as though he can tell me anything and because I'm the sort of person who doesn't hide my feelings, I want him to sort of open up a bit more. Please help.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (21 March 2010):
 I think at the moment you need to just let him find his feet, this is all really new to him and I think he might feel pressure or something if you try to get him to move onto a stage of the relationship that he's not ready for yet.
Give him time to find his feet then try to go from there, you might even find he's just not the open up and confess all his feelings kind of person therefore you might well have to decide whats more important, this bloke or someone opening up to you all the time.
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