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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone.One of my resolutions for this year is to stop my toxic relationship with my ex. We have broken up since May 2009 but many things have happened since that time, we got back together very shortly twice. We communicate and fight, then become friends again. The cycle never stops.This christmas, we met again and acted as if we never broke up but then, I know in my heart..he is not the same guy I fell in love. His principles and views about life have changed for the worse. Unfortunately, I feel I am one who makes him feel like this choice of life he has is a better one. He brags to me about girls he slept with and says nasty things about them. I feel I am just one of them and he might be saying the same thing about me. I feel he doesn't love me any more but just want to use me. He is a stranger to me now. So i have decided, and I cried so many nights and even as I make this post now, that I have to give him up and promise myself not to communicate with him anymore.But it is so hard, just days after I made this decision and ignored his new year greeting, I am back to missing him again and staring at my phone..wanting to call or to send a message. How can I continue to have a strong heart to do this? Any advise you can share to me? How do I really forget this guy? I am so sick and tired of feeling this way for 7 months now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for your advise..yeah, i agree to that statement too.
Thanks for reminding me. :)
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reader, notperfectjustforgiven +, writes (5 January 2010):
You are human and a person of value, which he doesn't see.
There is no way to force someone to see your value. They either see it or they don't. His loss.
I read this quote and this is how I moved on. It said..
If you love someone and you set them free and they come back to you then you know they were yours. If they don't they never were.
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