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writes:Next summer I will be moving in to an apartment with my best guy friend. We will both be 18. We have known each other for a little over 4 years and get along really well most of the time.I lost my virginity to him, and we have never been together as a couple. I'm a little uneasy about sharing a place with him as I have hidden feelings for him. I know for a fact he has no feelings towards me the way I do towards him.This will be our first time moving out of our parents and getting our own place. Does anybody have any advise or tips of how friends of the opposite sex can live together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Does not sound like you should be room mates!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): It would probably be to your advantage to keep him at arms length as far as any romantic involvement is concerned, unless the two of you want the same thing.
It's normally the woman who feels she gets the rough end of the deal because it's perceived as the woman's 'job' to do the cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, washing and ironing.
Make sure all the chores and expenses are shared equally, but if he's a really bad cook it might be in your own interests to take over in the kitchen. If so, he's the one who gets to do the washing up and putting away afterwards!
You may find after a while that he starts to think of you in a different light and wants to get romantically involved again. Then it's up to you how you want to play it. Living with someone is a whole different ball game to seeing them occasionally and it's quite possible you'll think differently about him too!
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