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writes: I have a question about taking my girlfriend's virginity. I'm 20 and she's 18 and we both attend college. I met her in class and we have been dating for almost 2 months. I'm not a virgin, but she informed me the other day that she's a virgin. Well from what she tells me she is ready to lose her virginity to me, but I feel somewhat guilty about it, you know sorta of awkward, because it's something so precious and I don't know if I should be the right guy for her. I love her, I haven't told her this yet, but when I look into her eyes, my heart flutters, and I absolutely love and adore her, but I really feel nervous about hurting her, by taking her virginity. I really want to be there for her, but I guess I'm just really nervous. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (21 February 2006):
 Losing your virginity can be painful but in today's society so many girls already have had their hymens's broken thru sports (bike riding, horse riding etc).
It didnt hurt be but I was scared stiff (so was my BF but thats another story lol)and whilst it was uncomfortable because I was tense it wasn't painful.
Together when you have made your decision you must practise safe sex (a message often lost on todays youngsters, but was hammered home to us in the eighties). Get together and have a few heavy petting sessions. So you both get used to the feelings it produces!
And lastly talk to HER. She will probably enjoy having a caring *in touch with her feeling* sorta guy before the actual act comes up.
I wish you both luck and enjoyment.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): You must talk to her about it. IT does really hurt when girls lose their virginity. I was almost seeing stars!! But the fact is I had a man who loved me, who respected me, and didn't pressure me into doing it. We talked about it loads before we attempted it, and even when those attempts failed we tried and tried and tried until we got there. You sound like an amazing person to guide her through this. Tender and caring. Just talk to her about how you're feeling, you owe her that.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (21 February 2006):
 Hi Hicks, your girlfriend has to loose her virginity sometime so as long as you love and care for her and she is up for it why should it not be you.
Make sure talk through this with her to ensure consent and that she really is ready, sort out contraception, the venue and lots of KY this should make it less painfull, loads of foreplay and no pressure should make for a special time for both of you and dont forget to tell her you love her as long as you are sure you do.
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