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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:If you know that you have meet an amazing man who you are happy with and treats you well,how come i cant help but sometimes think how i miss an ex?I have a child with him do you think this is why i think about him?i never understood the breakup as he left me suddenly,found out lata on another women but had no warning signs he wasnt happy.do you think im still greving the loss?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Yes I think you are still grieving and it's a very natural thing to do after a loss. Women invest a lot of emotional energy into relationships and having a child is probably the ultimate emotional investment to any relationship. It's impossible not to build up dreams of the future and imagine your partner will keep you safe secure and loved(all women need and want that)...
then it's suddenly taken away and your left alone to cope on your own and it's devestating, absolutely horrible and can take years to recover from.
You arn't alone, this happens to thousands of people every day and many of them still think of their ex and the good times that they are now missing. Eventually as time passes the pain gets less, sometimes people rush into other relationships to try and mask the pain, but eventually it will surface. The best you can do at times like this is to draw your friends and family around you, invest your love in your child and try to accept that your ex probably wont return (you probably wouldnt want him back anyway because he cheated).
Im so sorry that your hurting and I hope eventually that you recover. xxx
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