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writes:I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. I just wanted to know if my thoughts on the relationship are normal...I am really, really into him. When I am with him, I can't get enough of him. But I am also wary. Sometimes the littlest obstacle we come up against makes me feel like running away. I think it is because I've had 4 failed "serious" relationships since I was 16, and I almost feel like I have lost faith in love.I'm scared of getting to a year, like the others, and breaking up. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (1 March 2008):
 No it is not, nothing is and much though we may wish it otherwise that is how life is. It is good you are getting stronger, that means you are heading in the right direction. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm learning not to run away. It's hard not to, but I do feel that we are getting stringer every day. I still have my doubts but it's not going to be perfect 100% of the time is it?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Just live from day to day and learn from our mistakes.
Don't run away from problems. Tackle the problems head on and take one problem at a time.Take it as a challenge in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Maybe sometimes you get wary because certain things he says or does (during a conflict) trigger something in your memory that remind you of your past relationships, even if this relationship is not like the others. I'm in a relationship now that has been my longest. I get scared sometimes, too. I think we both need to keep at it, because why push someone away that could turn out to be a really great person?
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (24 February 2008):
I think your thoughts are normal in so much as that you have obviously had some bad experiences in the past and those kind of things tend to leave a mark which lasts. However, in the context of the current relationship there doesnt seem to be, from what you write here, much concrete reason to doubt him. You have to remember that just because things have gone wrong in the past does not mean this time they will. Losing faith when things go wrong is only natural. What happened to make your other relationships fail? Maybe looking back anylytically you can see what went wrong and avoid it this time. I am sure you can make this one work :). Good luck.
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