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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've known my boyfriend since my first yr in college and we've been dating for the past 3 yrs. Now that we've both graduated from school, I don't see him too much because he lives like 20 mins away from my home. We talk and text every day and he comes by very often to see me. But, sometimes he doesn't reply back to some of my "i love you" texts, although he has no problem texting me back if I was talking about something that doesn't involve me telling me how much I love him. Am I overthinking this or does he not get back to me about those kind of texts because he's used to us exchanging those words with each other frequently? I've even tested this by txting him "I love you a lot" and then waiting like 30 mins and then asking him something. He would reply back to my question, but not say I love you back. Is he just used to me telling him? Am I overusing those 3 special words that he doesn't even care anymore?
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reader, Vianneeey  +, writes (18 September 2014):
There are 5 kind of love languages (they define how people show love):
1. Word of affirmation
2. Action
3. Touch
4. Spending quality time
5. Gifts
You definitely are word of affirmation, you like to tell people how they mean to you & you feel loved when you hear nice stuff from them.
It seems like your bf love language is quality time. He shows you that he loves you by spending time with you.
You cannot overuse "I Love You', but anything means more if you don't have it too often. Imagine if your bf sends you flowers everyday. Now imagine your bf sends you flowers on random days just because he's thinking of you. Which one will make you happier?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 September 2014):
 Sending him texts that say "I love you" don't require a response.
in fact, I bet he could say "thank you" and you would be just as upset right?
I will tell you my story.. my ex husband said "I love you" all the time... in the long run he did not show me he loved me. Words mean nothing.
My current hubby.. loves me more than anyone has ever loved me even when he's mad as hell at me... and yet I think I have heard him say "I love you" 5 times in 4 years.
we rarely say it... we show it. Trust me hearing it from someone all the time makes it mean less and less...so when I do hear it it swells my heart.
stop saying it in text. save it for special times that you really feel it and really mean it.
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