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writes:okay, i really need some helpIm with a great guy and i have been with him for like 4 months. Everything has been goin good and stuff but ihave a problem. He always talks about sex, we are 14. He jokes about it alot, I just got out of a relationship where that was all i was wanted for. I never did anything tho, thats why he ended it. My new boyfriend respects me and treats me quite well, but no matter what sex always get brought up at some point in our conversations. Why are boys so obsessed with this, it bugs the hell out of me. I mean yes from time to time it crosses my mind and ill talk about it with him because i really do love him but im tired of talking about it. It comes to the point now where it ruins my mood because it reminds me of my past relationship and i worry that this is all he wants. he says its not and i appologise to him for comparing him to my ex. Am i overreacting or do you think he talks about sex too much?please help me for i feel really badly for talking about him like this=/xox thanks guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Aah yes. This is the typical case of a hormonal 14 year old honey! I know, its all they have on their brains, and it probably will for the next few years. Unlucky for girls - girls seem to be much more mature during that stage of life. Well, most anyways. If you feel comfortable, when he says something sexual, casually say, is that all you think about? Or do a kind-of-laugh and then quickly change the subject. If this doesnt do the trick, tell him directly to calm down! Explain to him it reminds you of your past - this is a good way to get him to calm down because if he really does love you, he'll stop at the thought of reminding you of your ex and will want you to be happy. Good luck :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): boys always do that. trust me. they love to talk about it . joke about it . make nasty comments about it to. it's not really somthign you can change ... but you can tell him to tone it down a bit... that it bothers you that it's all he wants to talk about. Don't feel pressured by him to do anything you don't wanna do . He shouldn't pressure you and if he does then don't talk to him anymore. your better off
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