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writes:Hey it's SFL (15yo) back with yet another problem that I would like to be helped with, if you don't mind. A few months back I got out of a horribly ending relationship. It took a little while to get over it but then I started to like one of my close friends at the time. Eventually we became best friends which is when I figured I would tell her that I liked her. I didn't expect that we would be going out anytime soon though since she had a boyfriend, but I figured she deserved to know. So yeah anyway it's caused a few problems with me and her but we've still made it through. However, about two weeks ago I had to stop liking her entirely because it was seriously on the verge of ruining our friendship, and her boyfriend wasn't too happy that I liked her either. So I stopped, willingly of course. She recently found out that she's pregnant with her boyfriend's kid. She doesn't like the idea of abortion or adoption, but her boyfriend seems like he's a little hesitant on raising a family. He needs to get his act together but I'm helping him with it by finding him a job and low-cost apartments so it should all work out in the end. But anyway that's not why I need help. The reason that I need help is because I thought that I had stopped liking her entirely (as anything more then my best friend) which was going great because I don't think our friendship has ever been stronger. But last night I had a dream. I can't remember most of it but I do remember that me and my best friend were at our high school (which looked nothing like our high school) and we were outside hanging out on the bench. Almost the entire school was outside and we were all just hanging out waiting for the principal to return from inside. Now that I think about it, it almost seemed like a fire drill. We were sitting on the bench just chilling, when there was a kind of silence which is when she kissed me. Which in turn led to a make-out session in my dream. I woke up this morning and I can't get it out of my head that maybe I still do like her. But from what's happened in the past, I know I can't because she's about to move in with her boyfriend and start a family. So I guess I'm just worried that this might start to cause more problems between the three of us. I just hope I'm looking too much into this dream. Please help, any advice at all would be nice.Thank you :)~SFL
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reader, dersita  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Ah come on! Its only a dream! I had a dream that I went to school holding hands with a boy that I liked. But I KNEW that was never gonna happen. Forget the dream! Dreams trick people all the time, dont you know?
She's having a child! If things dont work out with her and that other dude then YEAH MAYBE you could try and make a move. But she's pregant which means she's ONLY starting a family. Dont rush things man. LEAVE her alone or you'll only make things worse.
You could always be a FAMILY FRIEND. That means you can always see her and you could always be her boyfriend.
NOT BOYFRIEND BOYFRIEND but you know, A FRIEND THATS A BOY.
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