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writes:Hello, I have a real dilemma! I have a love interest, we are not in a relationship but when we are together we act like a couple and get very close and personal. The thing is her Aunt is also my Aunt through marriage, so although we are not cousins, she has cousins who are also my cousins, her on their mothers side and me on their fathers side. (Hope this makes sense?) We have never talked about it but I know she once had a crush on me, years ago, I don't know how she feels now. The fact is I love her and always have since she came back into my life when she was 20 years, now she is 30 and I am 35 and when we go out alone, it's like a date. Last Sunday, she asked me if there is anyone I am interested in, I said "no, not really" then she moved on to the subject of who would ever marry her? In my head I was thinking "I would be the perfect guy" I can't read the signs if there are any? I can never tell what body language means but we hug all the time not in a way she will hug my brothers. If we are alone she will sit next to me but side on so that she is directly facing me. Is there anything in that?I would have asked her out or shown her my feelings if I knew but I daren't until I know because I know my cousins would think it weird if she did like me too and we started dating, although if she was keen on me I would not worry about what people think because I love her so much and think she is worth fighting for. But I would be worried about our relationship if she turned me down.Again on Sunday I reminded her that I said "I wish I could marry her one day" her reply was "do you mean someone like me?" I didn't really know how to take that... Am I just barking up the wrong tree (kind of wishful thinking) or do you think there is possibly something there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): Hello,Please if anyone else has any advice or help, please do continue to do so.Many thanksShivago
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk thank you all, I will certainly give you an update on proceedings.Shivago
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much, you have given me confidence and you are right in the way you say "its better to try than to never know and always regret not asking" but at the same time from the thing I said what do you really think? Do you think the signs are there from her?
Anyways I thank you
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reader, 13AF  +, writes (20 January 2009):
Ok, I'm assuming I understand your relationship with this woman correctly as I say this.
A similar thing happened in my family. The two are now happily married with three children. You're not related by blood, so don't let that get you down. True your cousins and other family members might find this relationship a bit odd but they need to realize you're not really any closer related to her than the neighbor next door. Give it a shot. You really need to talk to her and see how she feels about you. There's a chance she has feelings for you so own up and actually ask her out. You never know what might happen and it's better to try it out than to spend your whole life wondering.
Love and luck in all you do.
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