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*ussie32tigerr
writes:Theres this guy who I recently met in June of 2011. He is two years older than me, and we started talking and got to know each other and even started hanging out a lot. He is so amazing, and I really think I love him and I tell him I do, and he says he loves me too, but I dont really know how to be sure if its love or not. I dont want to be one of those girls who falls head-over-heels for a guy and ends up heartbroken. But since he is two years older than me, I barely get to see him except for sometimes at night if he comes over, or on the weekends. Never during the day..The thing with him is, some days I'll be having a pretty crappy day because I get stressed out a lot. And I'll go to him for help. He always makes me feel so much better about myself and he is constantly telling me and reminding me that he loves me. But... were not dating. Were "friends". Sometimes he barely talks to me during the day (over phone), and other times he'll be the most kind, amazing, wonderful guy you will ever meet and will constantly talk to me!!! And when i see him, he always has this amazing smile, and that gives me major crazy butterflys and I smile, and it makes me nervous because im so scared to lose him.So, I guess the question that I seem to be having trouble with is if I'm actually in love, because i've never been in love before..
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reader, sobes4444 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Ok, this can be one of 3 things, he can be a total douche and be using you to get in your pants (highly unlikely in your situation but you never know), He could be absolutley nuts over you and is shy to ask you to be with him, or he could be a big brother to you and likes giving advice. you will know that your in love when you're absolutley sure, enough where you dont even question it.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (24 February 2011):
I wouldn't call this love as I would say its "infatuation." I personally think it takes a long while to truly know if you love someone or not. Premature "I love you's" lead to a lot of heart ache when one person realizes they weren't ready for it.
Regardless, you should probably talk to him about your relationship. Be honest with him and tell him you've really come to like him and want to get closer as more than a friend. Maybe he just cares for you a lot as a friend; maybe he's interested in dating. Either way, its clear he's not making the moves, so you may have to just come out to him.
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