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anonymous
writes:hi my exfiance just told me today that hes still in love with me hes engaged but he is having problems with her i was engaged to a man i met online we never met in person before i ended it with him so i can be with my ex because i still love him he also cheated on me and left me for her but he said hes sorry and only wants to be with me he is going to leave his fiancee for me am i crazy for trusting him?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 May 2010):
You're not crazy, but you're walking into a trap that can only lead to a lot of hurt for you. Taking away the love you feel, let#s face the facts. This is a man who cheated on you, left you and broke off your engagement to then get engaged to someone else, only to now be hurting her as well. He will hurt her like he hurt you, come back to you, then ditch you and move on to someone else. The truth is that though you love him, he's a total waste of time and isn't worth a second more of your attention. Don't go back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): You are still in love with your ex and he knows it, thus he is playing mind games with you to see just how far he can go with you. You have already proven to him that you are not trustworthy yourself because, you ended up leaving your current fiance for your ex---your ex will never respect or trust you and frankly if I were a guy, I wouldnt' trust you either. You knew before you got engaged that you were not over your ex, yet you dated and got engaged anyways. Furthermore, how can you get engaged to someone you have never met? You can't get to truly know someone through text messaging and emailing and talking over the phone. You come across as having a lot of unresolved issues, and I think you need to stop dating altogether and go get therapy and work out your issues that way, when you are healthy mentally and emotionally, you will be of value to relationship because, right now, you are not.
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reader, SeaCalm +, writes (2 May 2010):
Hi
I think you need to ask yourself why you are so eager to jump from your ex to the other ex...and why you would get engaged in the first place to a man you have never met?....you actually don't know why your ex is breaking up with his fiancee, but you are willing to drop everything and jump back in there...I think you must realise that although you don't know her, her feelings are involved here
and you originally broke up with your ex for a reason
maybe some time alone for you to mature just a little bit more relationship wise may help you to make better choices
and realise the 'trust' issue may be yours?...as you don't seem to like being on your own?
Good Luck
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