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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello I have a boyfriend since almost 8 months ago, we really get along very well, and he is wonderfull with me and he does everything to please me. We both have very tight schedules so we normally see eachother 3 times a week. I know he has give up time with his friends to be with me, they used to go out almost 2 or sometimes 3 times a week together before I appear. The thing that bothers me is that like every 2 weeks he normally goes out with his friends and he doesn't invite me, I think if we are a couple he should be part of my life and i should be part of his. It feels like he doesn't want me around, I know some of this people, I know his 2 closest friends, sometimes we go out together, but it is only if I have friends of mine coming to town to hang out with me, he really like my friends that why we always hang out together, am I being unreasonable here? I understand that he needs time alone with his friends, but it is not that we see eachother that much for him to be tired of me. I want to clarify that I am not thinking he is cheating, I don't think that is the problem because I know him. It is just feels that I am not important. I would like to hear some perspective of the situation. Reply to this Question
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reader, lexy79  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 In a word, yes, you are being unreasonable. Also, if you keep up like this, you are guaranteed to push him away from you! Being in love doesn't mean being joint at the hip, he has already given up a whole chunk of his social life so he can see you three times a week. Give the guy a break!
If you stay busy with your own life and don't stress him about having his own time, he will appreciate you all the more.
It's important for you also to have more going on in your life than just "being a couple". If that is the most important factor in your life, perhaps you should start aying a bit more attention to your own friends/career/studies/family/interests etc. Life is too short to hang around just being a girlfriend! Good luck :)
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