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writes:My girlfriend and I have beeen going out for two months now. The first month was so good, she'd always come over or she'd invite me to hers. Now things have turned the other way and we only see each other maybe twice a week. I text her every day. Am I being too clingy...? Help!
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reader, Loving25  +, writes (28 November 2010):
First of is she texting you as much? What are the vibes like? Meaning is she avoiding you little by little?? & What are her reasons? This tend to happens a lot in relationships when you guys be around each other a lot in the beginning. Its somewhat of a "burning out" phase. As far as clingy? I'll say no. That's what couples do... Look for on another & text....
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reader, BB_Sweetie  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Depends, but its better to be safe than sorry, don't text her, No Matter How Much You Want To and try to not call for 3 days, if she calls you during those days answer her, it shows she likes the attention,all girls love special attention and many but NOT all like to be smothered, I'm not saying you are smothering her, just try to do what I'm telling you, if she doesn't call or text during the 3 days or on the fourth day well it could be that she needed a bit of space or was a bit busy and couldn't do much but have the occasional worry, anyway, its very common that during the first few months its text central and you call/text her everyday and talk for like 8 hours each day, and its good but try not to talk too much because then as I said before, she might eventually feal a tad smothered and might not have much topics to tell you or you to her and the relationship between you two would eventually begin decreasing and die out, just try to do what I said, I'm pretty sure she will text back and if she doesn't during those 3 days then call her, I'm sure she will have lots to tell/talk to you about! Well, Good Luck~ From:-BB
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (28 November 2010):
What is her attitude like when you text her? Does she play along and hold a conversation, does she simply respond, or does she flat out ignore them? If its either of the last two, then she may be feeling suffocated.
I know its tough; I too am a "clingier" guy than most, but you're going to need to stop texting so often unless you have something important to say. Don't be afraid to initiate a conversation with her on this topic. Tell her that you miss seeing her as often as you used to and ask how she feels about it. Maybe she misses it too and just hasn't had the time or maybe there is something deeper.
On either level, there is only so much we can tell you. You need to talk to her about this. Find out what she's thinking and let her in on what's inside your head. Once you both understand each others' positions and needs you can start harmonizing.
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