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writes:wot am i doing...I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. It's been a roller coaster.I found out a month into that he was secretly getting back with his ex whilst seeing me.(I forgave him) then a month after that he ended everything with me, because he said he still had strong feelings for his ex.Now we have slowly worked back to where we were before if not further on in the relationship. I didn't ask about his ex until a couple of days ago..I really like him and I find myself sneeking out of my house to spend some time with him... we can both jus lay in each others arms for hours. I feel so compfortable with him but it turns out he's still with his ex, an he's being totaly truthful about it all. I've explained to him how its hurting me having to remind myself again and again that he is actually with someone else and as he says, I do genuinely believe he wants to break up with her. He says it's just hard to do that. Never done it before, and he just needs courage. I hope he is planning on trying to do this at some point but even though I couldn't imagine not seeing him, I don't know whether I'm being played a fool.Sorry it's so long.As many constructive replies as possible.=]
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Well ive seen this situation before. To me it is just an excuse. He seems confused about this whole thing but he needs to be a man and figure out what he needs to do and fast. Think about this though. How can you guarantee that he wont do the same to you as he did to his girlfriend? If he was willing to commit to you then he's do just that, not use some excuse about he doesnt have the courage to leave his girlfriend. Obviously he has been open to you that he still very much loves his ex. Maybe you should let go of the sneeking out series. You can do better as much as it may be hard. Let him on his own with the person he chose to be with and who he is still with. Have more respect for yourself and for the girl he is with. Do you think she deserves this? Do you deserve this? LEt it go before it gets any worse.
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